oldskl Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) This is only my second venture in online dating. The first girl who ever contacted me I met quickly without much chat and ended up in a short relationship for just under 4 months. That was a little rushed, and probably more physical than it was mental as we realised we just weren't a good match on a conversational level. I didn't even follow up much chatting with the other interests. I just can't handle multi-dating so kinda flew with it. This time, I am trying to play it a bit differently as I want a real mental connection than accepting just a pretty face and sex. To be crude, sorry. Life is better than that. I have a date lined up, but not for two weeks. The only reason for the delay is that we both have pre-planned family commitments; and the distance is a bit far for a week night. Perfect chance to see if we match mentally, right? Since giving me her number (her move) we seem to text a fair bit during the day during breaks and lunches (I get a nice morning message with a cheeky tone, and a few afternoon ones). I've also spoken to her every night either by call or skype. The calls seem to fly by. There has NEVER been the token 'awkward silence' and by the second call there were already in-jokes and amusing nicknames and a lot of natural flirty sarcasm. These calls and video chats have lasted well over an hour to two hours and still there is more to say. There is causal talk about things we want to go and do, date wise, and it just is assumed this is all for date 2, 3, 4, 5...etc. Bear in mind we won't even meet for date 1 for another two weeks yet! I have no idea if this is considered excessive this soon; or if sometimes two people can genuinely hit it off this quickly and naturally? 6+ hours of video/calls in as many days. You tell me? All I seem to see is bad dating stories, scary calls, axe murderer types and creepy night time meets. I must be very lucky. We've joked about keeping calls short 'next time' but last night it went on another 45 minutes on top without realising. As I said, this is only my second attempt at online dating, and literally only the second girl I've taken a number from. I never ask, I let them make the move. So the standard protocol after is completely alien to me. She is definitely not irritatingly contacting me when I don't want it. And I'm not constantly texting either. It's kinda one makes a move, one thing leads to another... etc and we're off. Can people 'click' crazily from the word go like this? Or is this absolutely insane? I kinda am enjoying it to be honest. I feel like I am not even trying to date. I guess what I am asking is if others have talked this much BEFORE or in the EARLY STAGES of meeting someone? Edited September 14, 2012 by oldskl
oaks Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Excessive conversation. Too much investment before even meeting.
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