Author teddyman Posted September 16, 2012 Author Posted September 16, 2012 Oh yah, a few more comments: You can fall in love more than one time. I have fallen in love twice - still have that love for both. Only one relationship at a time though. Heaven forbid, if anything ever happened to my wife, I could fall in love with another and each love that I have, will be unique in itself as a love can never be replaced. 1
AnotherRound Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Oh yah, a few more comments: You can fall in love more than one time. I have fallen in love twice - still have that love for both. Only one relationship at a time though. Heaven forbid, if anything ever happened to my wife, I could fall in love with another and each love that I have, will be unique in itself as a love can never be replaced. Hi Teddyman! I'm glad that my input was helpful for you. Did you research it? I have studied it in my field, and it is intriguing to me. Along with studying many relationships and the chemical reactions that they set off. I find it to be pretty interesting stuff... and it just reminds me that our feelings very often do have biological factors. It is like an addiction. And despite my first love kind of ruining my fond feelings towards him, I still get butterflies with him, lol. I don't even like him much, as he just isn't a person I would ever choose now... but that doesn't matter to my brain, or my chemicals! They still want him, despite the fact that I don't! lol I think you got it figured out. I don't throw away old pictures or letters, I keep all of that stuff, bc it is part of me. I even pull it out sometimes and enjoy the nostalgia of looking through them. BUT, I just remember, and keep it in mind, that a LOT of what I'm feeling is simply that... nostalgia. Nothing more, nothing less. Do I still "love" my first love? Of course, in some ways... he was my first everything. That's important stuff, and an important role that nobody can ever take from him. But do I love him in the way that I loved my last serious boyfriend? Nah, not even close... completely different. If you just keep that in mind, I think you will be fine. And, if you can keep reminding yourself too that your first love is JUST a regular person, like everyone else. She has faults and flaws and character issues and all that every human has. She isn't perfect, she isn't even perfect for you (or honestly, you'd probably still be together!)... she is just normal, regular. She is important to you, and she should be... but only in that she has helped shape you to who you are today. And today, you have a wife that you love, and a family that is precious to you... and your first love is exactly where she SHOULD be... in your past. Thanks for sharing! 1
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