abv81 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Hi , I ve been having a relationship with a woman 10 years older then me. We have been together 3 times over the last 4 years(since 2008-2012) and we ve been apart for 1 year and 3 months ...guess we ve been together for 2years and 7 months so far. We started again in Jan 2011 until now . It wasnt a normal couple type of relationship but it just worked .I am 31 and shes 42 . Anyway in July we broke up , for a few days -2 wks , she slept over at this guy ,she says nothing happend , I wanted her back and we got back and decided to giv us a proper go . At the end of august she went on a holiday alone because she booked it after us breaking up so I couldnt go . A hol for singles who travel as a group etc. All good , august was great for me n her . She gets back from hol , and she gets a message from this guy from the group asking her if she pretended to be exhausted . Before me seeing the message we started like a forplay and suddenly she starts crying and stops me saying that she is tired and she feels like she has to have sex with me (as opposed to wanting to-as it should be if she had missed me while on hol). After this she fell asleep and I saw the message .I was furious. I ve confrunted her and she says they were just geting along well and nothing happend . I shouldnt have but i ve messaged him bk saying that she did pretended tpo be tired lol. Ok , after this I ve asked her , few days later if he and him spoke after me disturbing their messaging . She said no but she was lying , because I saw their emails where more familiar language was present , calling me a stalker and that she ll sort things out etc. She kept being on her phone sneaky with this guy wich later she said it was the holiday same guy but registered in her phone under a different name . She lied about not being in touch with him for two days when I ve confronted her about the emails this time . Her birthday came and she would still not stop texting and I had a serious argument with her . Next day she said she wants a break . Anyway , there alot more i can say but I am trying to keep this as brief as possible .She wanted a break but before I saw a message from a friend of hers sayng that she will not be able to meet this new guy if i am around. I thing the argument was an excuse for her to call the break and be able to meet the new guy . She still will not admit that anything happend on holiday or in our break . I think she wanted to check this other guy and then make a decision . She keeps sayng nothing like that is going on and i am not sure i can trust her or be able to ignore these things and get back to her . I might love her but not sure if i can be with her like this or its the doubt and thoughts that kill me . I tryed talking to her but she would not open , she says its innocent messaging and now got a password on her phone .I dumped her but the next day i am getting in touch .She says think about our time we had etc but still not talk or wants to show me the messages to prove me wrong . What can or should I do . To me she betrayed me talking abt me really bad , disrespectful , commenting on holiday pics on fb etc. Or at least some opinions on the situation . Thanks
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