Sugarkane Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 I'd be too tempted to hurt them as much as possible and ripp their heart out just like they did to me. Oh yeah and then call them crazy. 2
Sugarkane Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Then laugh my head at them and ask them how does it feel? 1
TaraMaiden Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Very nice Tara. You give some of the best advice on this site, it's always insightful and I look forward to hearing your comments. Good stuff! I would not get back with my ex... or any ex for that matter. I have far too much self-respect to ever, EVER go down that road. When it's done, it's done. "Bury the hatchet and make sure the handle ain't stickin out" Thank you. I let my mouth run away with me sometimes, but I just cut to the chase. Sometimes, people need a metaphorical shake and "get a grip!!" I don't mean to sound flippant, but we set too much store in someone else making us feel wonderful. It's a huge responsibility to dump on someone else's shoulders.... We should be happy within ourselves, regardless of the presence - or otherwise - of a significant other. The more we're destroyed by their departure, the less we were complete in ourselves. If we feel broken, it means we were far too fragile in the first place. Everything - but absolutely everything, without question, has a beginning, a middle and an end. We should always begin a relationship, with the sound, secure and absolutely accurate knowledge that this too, one day, will run its course. It could be in a month, a year or 50 years. Somehow, something will activate its ending. What that something will be, we have absolutely no way of knowing. So it's a far more sound plan to invest your energy into making it as much fun, in every way imaginable, while it lasts, and when the time comes, being able to release it. "A fairy went a-marketing she bought a coloured bird; it sang the sweetest, shrillest song that she had ever heard. She sat beside it's painted cage and listened half the day, and then she opened wide the door, and let it fly away." Relationships should bring us as much joy when we release them, as when we hold them tight to us. Perverse - but true.
Pompom Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Working on it, and I think it might actually work. He dumped me to get back with his ex, she then violently re-dumped him and broke his heart into a million pieces, and is now "training" me in how to win him over, isn't this a weird world...
SuperGeek Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 My ex TRIED to come back a year ago and i sent her ass packing. This was after her 6 month engagement to some random dirt bag on a dating site fell apart (they were engaged 2 months after she left me). Sorry, but I'm not a backup plan and she'd leave me again if I had taken her back. F her, she can go find someone else to be her stooge (which given her rep, i'm sure she had a new guy lined up 5 minutes after i told her where to go ). She can go sit on a flag pole as far as i'm concerned. Once they leave and hookup with someone else, never take them back. The trust is gone and you will never look at them the same again. Don't even waste your time at all. Glad I had some self-respect even during that time when I was completely depressed. SuperGeek 1
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Yes, in a millisecond. Like if he texted me today I don't think there would even be a time space between me saying yes to whatever he asked me.
Floored Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Haha, my ex is too proud to ever contact me past a text, and that was a long time ago, much less beg to come back. My mental image of her is defiled beyond repair. Initially- before she started slutting it up to 'find herself'- maybe I'd let her walk 1000 miles to get to me. Now? I don't know if there are enough ways to say sorry. It's to the point of "not even if we were the last two on Earth; humankind is doomed". I envy you who have exes that have dignity and self-respect and can actually toy with this idea. Why go back to what's been hopelessly broken? So I can have a Notebook ending? Screw that noise. New girls smell good. 2
Mint Sauce Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 New girls smell good. You cheered me up with just 4 words! 1
sweetheart5381 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Thank you. I let my mouth run away with me sometimes, but I just cut to the chase. Sometimes, people need a metaphorical shake and "get a grip!!" I don't mean to sound flippant, but we set too much store in someone else making us feel wonderful. It's a huge responsibility to dump on someone else's shoulders.... We should be happy within ourselves, regardless of the presence - or otherwise - of a significant other. The more we're destroyed by their departure, the less we were complete in ourselves. If we feel broken, it means we were far too fragile in the first place. Everything - but absolutely everything, without question, has a beginning, a middle and an end. We should always begin a relationship, with the sound, secure and absolutely accurate knowledge that this too, one day, will run its course. It could be in a month, a year or 50 years. Somehow, something will activate its ending. What that something will be, we have absolutely no way of knowing. So it's a far more sound plan to invest your energy into making it as much fun, in every way imaginable, while it lasts, and when the time comes, being able to release it. "A fairy went a-marketing she bought a coloured bird; it sang the sweetest, shrillest song that she had ever heard. She sat beside it's painted cage and listened half the day, and then she opened wide the door, and let it fly away." Relationships should bring us as much joy when we release them, as when we hold them tight to us. Perverse - but true. I agree with this whole post, especially the part about needing a "shake" and being terribly broken when the relationship has run it's course. Always keep in mind that you were perfectly fine before the relationship began and you will be just as fine when it ends. Everything in life runs it's course, including life itself. I personally did not find "joy" perse at the end of my last relationship, but I did learn valuable lessons about myself including an new inner strength that I didn't seem to have a few short yrs ago. I suppose that could be considered a "joy" There is a silver lining to everything, just have to believe in it and find it!
oasisfancortes Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 No. Because i tried to make it work before, and it doesn't seem like she cared towards the end. I found at she wanted someone else, and lied about. I found out from directly asking the other guy while she stood there. So nope. It's one of those things when you have really have to say "..pfft. **** this", u know? I think everybody knows deep down, whether or not they should. But as for me, Nope!
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