bluefairy812 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 it's hard to accept and swallow. has anyone ever been told this? "i love you but..it's not going to work, we are not right for each other"/"it's not meant to be"/"just because you love a person doesn't make them the right person for you"
geegirl Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 it's hard to accept and swallow. has anyone ever been told this? "i love you but..it's not going to work, we are not right for each other"/"it's not meant to be"/"just because you love a person doesn't make them the right person for you" Yes, it's pretty standard. It's hard to accept but what can you do. You can't force someone to feel otherwise. They're either letting you down gently or do care for you, just not enough to want a relationship with you. 1
suladas Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Hard to say what the reason is. Maybe they love you, but don't see a future together working out? You could be awesome together, but differences in life that would end up in disaster in the future. I was never told this, but I am pretty sure it's what happened to me, and to be honest I felt the same way, I just wasn't anywhere near ready to come to that conclusion yet and felt it was way to early for her to think that.
Author bluefairy812 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Hard to say what the reason is. Maybe they love you, but don't see a future together working out? You could be awesome together, but differences in life that would end up in disaster in the future. I was never told this, but I am pretty sure it's what happened to me, and to be honest I felt the same way, I just wasn't anywhere near ready to come to that conclusion yet and felt it was way to early for her to think that. that's exactly what he told me, he doesn't see a future with me.
Rol Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 This is what I had to hear and it's basically a crock of sh*t, cowardly, confusing and spineless way of saying they don't want to be with you. 3
TaraMaiden Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 "i love you but we're not meant to be" yeah. it's the equivalent to "It's not you, it's me" and three degrees removed from "I love you but I'm not in love with you". What they mean is "I'm not that rocked by this any more, and I'm going to sling my hook." Pretty words. All mean it's over. 2
Author bluefairy812 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 just trying to deal with this rejection. he told me he has felt like this for a year... crazy.. i never gave up on him. and he gave up on me.
Author bluefairy812 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 yeah. it's the equivalent to "It's not you, it's me" and three degrees removed from "I love you but I'm not in love with you". What they mean is "I'm not that rocked by this any more, and I'm going to sling my hook." Pretty words. All mean it's over. that's another thing he said!!! "it sounds cliche but really its not you its me. this was one of the hardest decisions i've had to make.... " -_-
TaraMaiden Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Bullschytt. The hardest thing he had to do was to find a way of telling you. The decision was made. he just needed to let you in on it....
geegirl Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 that's another thing he said!!! "it sounds cliche but really its not you its me. this was one of the hardest decisions i've had to make.... " -_- I'm sure there's a Break-Up Lines for Dummies out there somewhere. Whatever way it's conveyed, the objective is the same. It's over.
youngnlove89 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 it's hard to accept and swallow. has anyone ever been told this? "i love you but..it's not going to work, we are not right for each other"/"it's not meant to be"/"just because you love a person doesn't make them the right person for you" Yes I was just told that. He said "I want you in my life, but not 'that' way" He loves me, but not 'that' way. It hurts and it hurts bad. I don't think the pain goes away either, you just make room for it.
suladas Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 that's exactly what he told me, he doesn't see a future with me. That sucks, especially if you think there is a future and there is no big obstacle that could be foreseen coming up. For me, my ex being 12 years older and having kids, it wasn't just a line, it was the truth and the fact that neither of us were sure if we could see a future together. It doesn't really make it hurt less though.
k100danny Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I've had it said to me and i believe it was the honest truth, this was a previous relationship that ended over a year ago, we really did care and neither of us did anything truly wrong to the other one. We got together and for two months we were ok but we had very major differences in personality, great together just is but very different in social situations and very different in what we wanted from life. I think it took a lot of strength for her not to string me along longer and see if it would work out as many do and since then we have become great friends again. I have also felt this way myself in my previous relationship that ended a few months ago, I think we both felt that way, we cared but there were some major differences as far as what we were going to do with our lives, we split up a few times but ended up back togther after a day or so. I knew that it couldn't go the distance and deep down she did and i think this was the reason for ending the relationship. I would never have had it in me to walk away but i would have ended up miserable and so would she.
RogerWallace111 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 of course it's been a half-truth "easy let down" before, but it can be perfectly truthful. I honestly loved and still have love for my ex but knew I didn't see a future with her (as in "forever", marriage, etc).
sweetheart5381 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Haha, I had all the best lines handed to me "It's not you, it's me." "You're so awesome, I'm a dufus, I should want to be with you." "I don't know what I want... I want to break up... but I still want you.....but I need space." "We're not meant to be". "I don't see this lasting." "I want to date other women, but don't want to lose you." Since he couldn't make a decision I did I lost him... gave him back all his crap, gifts too. He played some head games trying his best to make me feel like **** for his own indecision, like it was my fault. He called me names, told me to **** off, go away, etc. It backfired. No more attention from me. I didn't care anymore for anything but being cordial and polite. I offered friendship as we were co-workers with mutual friends. He came back a few months later, wanting sex cuz he wasn't getting any, lol. (And he had heard that I was getting close to his friend). He seemed very sincere about wanting a relationship with me and he was even successful at getting my clothes off except he couldn't get it up He played his very last game on me.... and he lost. He lost my respect. Yep, I handed every ****ty line back to him that he gave to me in our last exchange. That felt pretty damn good. It was so fitting to be able to say to him, "Ya you're right, it's you, not me." 1
KatZee Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 that's another thing he said!!! "it sounds cliche but really its not you its me. this was one of the hardest decisions i've had to make.... " -_- Mine said these same things too. Load of horse manure. He has to be, and yours has to single-handedly be the most cowardly people on the face of the planet. 1
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