LoveHurts88 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Today i have the urge to contact my ex. I wanna talk to her so bad. Its been LC but NC since Monday so 4 days now. I miss her and just wanna talk to her again. I know i shouldnt but jesus i have a huge urge atm. She also has one of these as a status on whatsapp for about 8 days makes me think...
TopCat22 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Don't do it! I've been feeling the same today, but you need to keep telling yourself why you're doing NC! Nothing you can say to her will help a) get her back or b) help you move on and heal. Nothing. If it helps, write down on this thread what you'd like to say to her. You'll read it back and realise that is won't do anything for you.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 =[ i wanted to tell her that the place we love to go is oing to be closed after the weekend so its the last weekend. I want to tell her that the perfume she wanted still hasnt arrived. I wanna tell her i miss her, i wanna see her beautiful face, i wanna hold her. I want you back. I love her
TopCat22 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Well done for sharing. Now look at that message from her point of view. It makes you seem needy. Loving, maybe, but needy certainly. She won't respond to this. It won't get her back. She will decide of her own free will if she wants to come back to you.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Well done for sharing. Now look at that message from her point of view. It makes you seem needy. Loving, maybe, but needy certainly. She won't respond to this. It won't get her back. She will decide of her own free will if she wants to come back to you. =[ i dont know i really miss her today. Especially today
TopCat22 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I know. I feel the same about my ex. She's off to a wedding tomorrow that we were supposed to go to together. We haven't spoken in 2 weeks. It's tough. But I know that there is nothing I can say to change her mind. She won't respond to words. She's running on emotions. Let her miss you. Let her process her feelings. You won't achieve anything by contacting her and then you'll be right back to square one. Stay strong, keep posting on here instead.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 I know. I feel the same about my ex. She's off to a wedding tomorrow that we were supposed to go to together. We haven't spoken in 2 weeks. It's tough. But I know that there is nothing I can say to change her mind. She won't respond to words. She's running on emotions. Let her miss you. Let her process her feelings. You won't achieve anything by contacting her and then you'll be right back to square one. Stay strong, keep posting on here instead. I know for a fact that if i msg her she will reply. I am 100% sure of that.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 I loved this girl to death. We are both 24 maybe its GIGs
TopCat22 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 She may well reply, but it won't be her wanting to get back together. I can 100% assure you of that. If she's going to come back it HAS to be her choice. If you talk her into coming back it will only be out of guilt and you'll end up breaking up again. Stay NC. She will contact you eventually and when she does your head will be much clearer. Could be GIGS, but you have no way of knowing. Do whatever you can to stop yourself contacting her. I'm finding that reading and replying to posts on here is a big help.
geegirl Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 NC is the most unbearable feeling. The only way past it, is through it. You want to feel comfort, seek it from your friends and family. She is your source of pain and no good can come from contacting her. You'll get a small little fix with contact to relieve that pain but then what? Nothing changes. She goes back to not wanting you and you go back to these same rotten feelings. Only this time you're even more hurt because you're feeling rejected all over again.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Shes a very stubborn girl. I think even if she wanted to get back together with me she wouldnt initiate it cuz thats the way she is. I wont contact her i will stay NC but it just kills me inside. How do i know when or if she wants to get back together?
geegirl Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Shes a very stubborn girl. I think even if she wanted to get back together with me she wouldnt initiate it cuz thats the way she is. I wont contact her i will stay NC but it just kills me inside. How do i know when or if she wants to get back together? Well, if she's that immature and will let her stubborness get in the way of being with someone she loves, then that is not your cross to bear. I believe you're making excuses with that statement. You will know when and if she wants to get back together, when she burning up the lines or busting down your door, showing you with action what you mean to her and how much she's realized she's lost.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Well, if she's that immature and will let her stubborness get in the way of being with someone she loves, then that is not your cross to bear. I believe you're making excuses with that statement. You will know when and if she wants to get back together, when she burning up the lines or busting down your door, showing you with action what you mean to her and how much she's realized she's lost. Thats is very true, i think shes either forgotten about me or is trying to. We have these games we play on our phones and she would leave me tips etc but she hasnt even done that. Or gifted me or anything but to the rest she has...
geegirl Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Thats is very true, i think shes either forgotten about me or is trying to. We have these games we play on our phones and she would leave me tips etc but she hasnt even done that. Or gifted me or anything but to the rest she has... Try to stay NC. I know it is hard. I've been through it more times than I care to remember.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Try to stay NC. I know it is hard. I've been through it more times than I care to remember. Day 4 now. I want her to msg me but iuno if she will after i told her we shoulmt talk. She said got it boss ttyl =[ She was my first real love. 2 years her longest relationship and now shes just somebody i used to know.
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