LovePossum Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Get Comfortable, this may take a while any advice from men and women is greatly appreciated I’m not sure where to begin. I have a lot or friends and they all mean a lot to me, I’m really close to them all. The problem is that they don’t live that close to me. The closest one live 10mins from me, by car and an hour by public transportation. 10mins isn’t a big deal but I don’t have a car, yet. There is public transportation which we call the T is good but I have to allow extra time to accommodate for it, obviously. My biggest problem is that I have a friend that lives 30mins away by car. I don’t have a car, so I have to add on an hour for transportation. When I get there, I have to walk to her place which is an extra 10mins and the town she lives has no public transportation. Now I’ve told her that I’m just tired of all the traveling to her house and back on the T. She saying that I’ve never had this problem before, which is true. She says that I’m lying and I’m not telling the real truth. She even has to take the T into the city because she doesn’t have a car too. When we get there we don’t do anything, just sit there and do nothing. Sometimes I don’t have any problems with that but I would also like to get out and do other things like go to the mall or something. She worried about spending money and she doesn’t like going to the mall to walk around or look at thing she can’t buy, typical women. (sorry ladies don’t take offence, I’m just venting ) It’s not only her that I’m have starting to hate the T, it’s all my friends. If we all want to go and do something, I have to ask where we’re going and what time to meet up. Then, how long we are going to do that because the T isn’t 24hrs. I don’t really have a social life because of that and I don’t want to bug them for rids everywhere, but that’s not my biggest problem. My biggest problem is trying to figure out how to tell her. I feel like she wont really be understanding. She knows I have other friends, she knows I try to hang out with them, but she treating me like I don’t see her as one of my friends or I don’t want to be friends anymore with her. I’m not sure how to go along with this. Is it ok to feel like this or an I just being an emotional bitch?
darkmoon Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 "Now I’ve told her that I’m just tired of all the traveling to her house and back on the T. She saying that I’ve never had this problem before, which is true. She says that I’m lying and I’m not telling the real truth" does she often dominate you in this manner?
Author LovePossum Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 She does, becuase she doesn't believe me, she thinks theres more to it.
darkmoon Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 (edited) She does, becuase she doesn't believe me, she thinks theres more to it. who needs a domineering friend? say goodbye to her you'll feel free and happy Edited September 17, 2012 by darkmoon
Author LovePossum Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Ive been frieends for he too long just to call it quits. I knew that she was like this in the beginging though. It doesnt help that I had feelings for her in the beginning but not now. I want to keep her around because she really is a cool
darkmoon Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Ive been frieends for he too long just to call it quits. I knew that she was like this in the beginging though. It doesnt help that I had feelings for her in the beginning but not now. I want to keep her around because she really is a cool I see mere acquaintance-material; keep her around, ok, but investing her with your perception of a friend has got you posting here, in some distress. Join meet-up on-line to meet new people.
CC12 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 It doesnt help that I had feelings for her in the beginning but not now. Oh, BS. You either still have feelings for her or are just hanging around her because you're still hoping for a relationship or something else. No platonic friend would repeatedly travel an hour on public transportation then spend another 10 minutes actually walking to the friend's house, only to sit there and watch tv in her presence, or whatever you guys do. Real friends would have no problem saying, "I can't come over to your house because it's a huge pain in the ass to travel there and then we don't even do anything fun." And then the other friend would say, "That's cool. I understand. We'll just see each other when it's convenient." Or the friend might not understand at all and try to guilt trip you. Then you would be like, "Huh. My friend is being unreasonable and inconsiderate and too demanding of my time. I won't feel bad not being close friends any more." That's what it would be like in a normal friendship, where one party does not have romantic intentions. Not to be a dick, but I'm baffled that this is an issue for you. "She won't understand!" Who gives a good god damn if she understands? Why are you so worried about her feelings when she's being more demanding than any "friend" would ever be? This is not a normal friendly relationship.
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