Sando13 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Hey guys, First of all I'd like to introduce myself, I'm kyle. Currently going through a few crises dealing with a new friendship and I'm hoping this is the right place for some positive feedback. Some what controlling emotions through taught meditation. Currently I am friend with this girl that I met online, At the start we really got close. She had moved down from QLD to MELB AU and did not know anyone down here. She we got talking and we clicked well. When we first met however she was hugging me on the first day holding my hand and kissing me on the cheek. I did feel we were moving somewhat fast. I believe I became clingy and attached too quickly, She was giving me the signs and playfully touching. It started to go backwards when I felt I was too attached and past issues from my last relationship that ended in betrayal, jealously and anger seemed to cruise forward into our friendship. She prefers guy friends over girls as she believes that they annoying and she does not like conflict. I got jealous when she was with other guys easily and we kept fighting about it. In the end I stated what was wrong and what happened to my last relationship and she started to say that she found commitment too hard because she was also ruined by her last relationship. Day by day went by sometimes we were good sometimes we would fight, I also made the mistake of introducing her to my friends. It has ended with me and her still friends and talking but I have chosen to tell her that I am going away for a while to improve my quality of life and fix my issues. However I found out tonight at work that she is over at my mates house, This mate is basically family and has been through heart ache himself. His family has told him she is a no go zone without any word from me as they know how I feel about her. Basically he is the brother of my brothers wife. I'm hoping other people who have been in the same situation can help me on a mature approach to this and so far I have been able to control my actions and think before I act on my feelings. He basically stated he was just a friend and that he would never do anything. I'm confused if they are just friends or if she knows I will find out that she is with him to test if I have changed and to see my reaction. Basically at the moment his sister is their watching over them and it looks like nothing. To I continue to give her space until I feel ready or do I confront her? I feel if I confront her it may lead to pushing her away. Anyway hope to hear some feed back. Right now I am working on myself and will be talking to her in two weeks. She babysits a lot at home, I do not know if it is her just escaping for the Friday night, She also does not work currently. Cheers guys.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 It has ended with me and her... Confront her about what? Your first part is a rambling missive about how you were friends but there was flirting and playful touching. Never did you say you two were together. You did say it ended--What ended I have no clue. I don't think you were in a relationship with this girl. Even if you were, it sounds like its over now. So what does confronting her about anything accomplish?
Author Sando13 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Confront her about what? Your first part is a rambling missive about how you were friends but there was flirting and playful touching. Never did you say you two were together. You did say it ended--What ended I have no clue. I don't think you were in a relationship with this girl. Even if you were, it sounds like its over now. So what does confronting her about anything accomplish? Yes but the problem is, I still have to see her for her Birthday and I have her ticket for a concert. She has stated that when I get back from our break we will talk. Also she said she likes me yet she is now backing off and has me all confused. We used to talk every day, Now that I have stated I want space she is going to the next best thing my friends. I'm just not sure how I should handle this and that is why I am here seeking guidance.
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