venusianx13 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I'm just curious; what have your worst/most rude date experiences been? I have a few...but I like to read others' stories.
AlexCross Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Oh such a small world Had a woman who was arrogant, rude, standoffish on the phone, demanded I look a certain way and "look like my pictures". Should of saw the red flags but met her anyway. She said she was single, but talked about her ex all through dinner and then dropped the bomb that she was still married. To add salt to the wound, I asked her if she had a good time and she called me ugly. True story. 1
Author venusianx13 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 That's a rough one... I had a similar experience, but didn't even get to the dinner part. A couple of years ago, a guy online chatted me up. His profile made him out to seem like a decent, intelligent human being who had something more than a cold stone for a heart. He insisted on a phonecall soon after, to which I hesitantly obliged, but the manner in which he spoke on the phone was very off-putting. He was rude, he spoke ill of people the entire time, had very poor grammar, and just did not sound like a pleasant human being. He asked for some photos, I sent a few. I started getting a bad feeling, like I really didn't want to meet up with this guy, but others told me to at least have a quick meet-up with him to see what he was like in person. He wanted to meet one night, very late, and was very insistent on it; It had to be THAT night. Even though I was tired, and despite my bad feelings, I agreed...I met him at a TGIF. He pulled up super late because he apparently had gotten a flat tire. I got out of my car, went over to his window, and introduced myself. He didn't even smile at me, and got on the phone to call AAA or something similar... I stood there and waited while he was on the phone, and suggested that we go inside, as it was cold out, and we could wait for AAA to get there. He looked at me and said, "I can tell you right now, you don't do it for me." I was pretty shocked. I don't look unlike my photos, I'm not an ogre, I'm not overweight... I proceeded to kindly tell him that the feeling was mutual (it truly was... I wasn't impressed by his Cadillac with expensive rims, the bling he wore on his fingers, or the giant gold chain he wore around his neck; not my style at all) but that it wouldn't hurt to make a new friend. To that, he replied, "This conversation is over. What, you think you're going to win me over with your good heart?" Um, no... I walked away at that point. I should have trusted my gut on that one.
AlexCross Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 That's a rough one... I had a similar experience, but didn't even get to the dinner part. A couple of years ago, a guy online chatted me up. His profile made him out to seem like a decent, intelligent human being who had something more than a cold stone for a heart. He insisted on a phonecall soon after, to which I hesitantly obliged, but the manner in which he spoke on the phone was very off-putting. He was rude, he spoke ill of people the entire time, had very poor grammar, and just did not sound like a pleasant human being. He asked for some photos, I sent a few. I started getting a bad feeling, like I really didn't want to meet up with this guy, but others told me to at least have a quick meet-up with him to see what he was like in person. He wanted to meet one night, very late, and was very insistent on it; It had to be THAT night. Even though I was tired, and despite my bad feelings, I agreed...I met him at a TGIF. He pulled up super late because he apparently had gotten a flat tire. I got out of my car, went over to his window, and introduced myself. He didn't even smile at me, and got on the phone to call AAA or something similar... I stood there and waited while he was on the phone, and suggested that we go inside, as it was cold out, and we could wait for AAA to get there. He looked at me and said, "I can tell you right now, you don't do it for me." I was pretty shocked. I don't look unlike my photos, I'm not an ogre, I'm not overweight... I proceeded to kindly tell him that the feeling was mutual (it truly was... I wasn't impressed by his Cadillac with expensive rims, the bling he wore on his fingers, or the giant gold chain he wore around his neck; not my style at all) but that it wouldn't hurt to make a new friend. To that, he replied, "This conversation is over. What, you think you're going to win me over with your good heart?" Um, no... I walked away at that point. I should have trusted my gut on that one. Wow what a douche. If you dont mind me saying. That is rude. Every date I have went on from Online Dating I have paid for and I have to say that 50 percent of the women never even said thank you.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I went to a seminar at a hotel in NYC one night and went toward the elevator to leave. Sparks flew with this seemingly beautiful woman who got on at the same time--double takes, etc. It just seemed like there was nothing else to do but get her number and ask her out. So, I met her for lunch a few days later. We were both dressed well when we met and when we met for lunch. The first thing she said when we met for the lunch was "what are you looking at?" That was just the first of several really weird defensive remarks she made. It was so off-putting and a real pity. Meeting her seemed like a dream. Then spending an hour with her for lunch couldn't get over fast enough. I know that doesn't sound so terrible but she stands out as rude/weird.
suladas Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Wow those are awful. I've actually never had a bad date, but reading these replies and just starting OLD i'm kinda worried about having a train wreck.
Lobouspo Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Was going on like a 3rd date with a lawyer I had met through work. Meet her at a restaurnant and her friend shows up. At various interludes during dinner they are whispering in each other's ear and she tells me "sorry you can't hear what we are talking about" as I just sat there awkwardly. Another time a girl told me it was rude that I excused myself to use the bathroom....Ummm ok u want me pi## all over myself then? 3
oaks Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I've been lucky. The worst has been people being very late. Not much of a story, but it told me what I needed to know about whether they were interested (since there wasn't really any reason for the lateness).
Disillusioned Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 One woman tried to use the Jedi mind trick on me ("You WILL do this. You WILL do that."). I'm not kidding.
GorillaTheater Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 One woman tried to use the Jedi mind trick on me ("You WILL do this. You WILL do that."). I'm not kidding. You: "I am not the dumbass you're looking for." 3
CarrieT Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 When I was very actively working the OLD scene, I met a guy I had been talking with for sometime in downtown San Francisco. Now I have to set the scene.... There is an area called Yerba Buena Park which is surrounded by large hotels, museums, fountains, shops, and nestled amongst all of this is a small, Gothic church. We set the time to meet in the park and when he arrived, I was already there, sitting on the grass. He "helped" me up by grabbing me a bit more than I was ready to be grabbed. We talked about where to go and what to do and I motioned to the church, asking if I had ever been inside. I said no - and that I was not a Christian - but that I really like architecture and we could go in and wander around. He sort of takes me by the elbow and leads me towards the church. When we entered, we could see that it was full and there was a service starting - in Tagalog no less. Well, I'm here to chat and get to know someone, not listen to a Christian service in a language I don't understand but he sort of pushes me into a pew and sits down. So I sit. In between us are his wallet, cell phone, and keys. A huge ring of very loud keys. So he keeps moving his "things" around, making a lot of noise (honestly, this guy needed a man purse!) and situates his "stuff" on the other side so that he could get closer to me. And he puts his arm around me and a hand on my thigh. In a church. I've known this guy about six minutes and he is trying to touch me in a public place... The next thing I know, he is glancing all around the church - scoping it out, as it were - and, before I know it, he picks up all his stuff and walk away saying, "I'll be right back." I don't know where the heck he was going but I immediately scoped out an exit and hightailed it outta there. Walking as fast as I could, I crossed back over to the other side of the park to a restaurant I'm rather fond of, hoping and praying I got out of there fast enough to not have him follow me. Sure enough, within a few minutes I am getting a barrage of texts and phone calls asking where I went. I simply texted back that I didn't feel we had any chemistry and left it at that. Shortest date I ever had and over the following three weeks, he kept trying to call and text me before I had to tell him to go away. Creepy....
Necris Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Well the rudest date I had was when I decided to ask out this nerdy girl for a date in retrospect I'm not sure why but to my surprise she agreed so I was happy, and I made plans for going to a restaurant. Initially things were going good though I felt kinda silly since I dressed up and she dressed down but that didn't bother me and I did have to wait quite a long time to pick her up as she wasn't ready on time yet, but that wasn't an issue either. So we eventually get there and we do a bit of small talk eventually we start talking about comic books and somehow that started the subject of her gay man on man orgy fantasies and then she tried to imply that I was gay for some reason. That made me extremely uncomfortable because come on no one wants to talk about crazy stuff like that, and on top of that she doesn't have an inside voice so people are staring and I'm trying my best to get her to stop talking about that but she wouldn't listen eventually she stopped. She went on to talk about her favorite books and somehow that leads to crazy rape fantasies and she even yelled rape out once for some reason, making this very embarrassing and I'm again trying my best to get her to stop talking about rape, fortunately the food arrives, and she starts eating. Then she goes on to talk about her support for the Nazis and how America should have allied with Nazi Germany in WWII and how she thinks people are silly for caring about the 9/11 disaster and again there is no inside voice with this one. Unfortunately I was being too much of a gentlemen and actually paid for the dinner and took her back home, now that I think about it I don't know why I did. After that she revealed she never really wanted to go on a date and became extremely avoidant, which was okay since I really didn't want to speak to her, but it was kind of awkward how obvious she was trying to avoid me, when we happened to be in the same place at the same time. I told my friends about it since they wanted to hear how my date went, they thought it was super funny. They then wanted to know how she looked like and they laughed some more since she wasn't exactly the hottest girl you'll see in fact far from it, so they thought I was being crazy going out with her. The good thing is that I have a funny story to tell. 1
KungFuJoe Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Oh such a small world Had a woman who was arrogant, rude, standoffish on the phone, demanded I look a certain way and "look like my pictures". Should of saw the red flags but met her anyway. She said she was single, but talked about her ex all through dinner and then dropped the bomb that she was still married. To add salt to the wound, I asked her if she had a good time and she called me ugly. True story. Um...look at your avatar pic. I'm surprised she didn't just order the most expensive drink in the place, toss it in your face, then leave sticking you with the bill.
todreaminblue Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I'm just curious; what have your worst/most rude date experiences been? I have a few...but I like to read others' stories. A guy saying over coffee first date....im bi sexual that doesnt turn you off does it, one eyebrow raised and what he thought was a charming smile..eye to eye contact.....coffee went up my nose when i choked on a mouthful i had just taken.... i thought it was rude of him to make that happen....some people shoudl wait to put that out ther ei think....and maybe not over coffee at a first meeting..definitely rude to mention while a mouthful of coffee is in the mouth fo the recipient who is drinking it....when i paid for both coffees he didnt thank me either....rude boy......lol...deb
collegemuse Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Back in my first month of college, I went out for sushi with someone for the first time ever. He told me the wasabi was a sweet pistachio flavored cream and let me taste of spoonful of it...he thought it was hilarious. 1
oaks Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Back in my first month of college, I went out for sushi with someone for the first time ever. He told me the wasabi was a sweet pistachio flavored cream and let me taste of spoonful of it...he thought it was hilarious. I'm laughing... but... wow, that's harsh! 1
TaraMaiden Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Back in my first month of college, I went out for sushi with someone for the first time ever. He told me the wasabi was a sweet pistachio flavored cream and let me taste of spoonful of it...he thought it was hilarious. It liquefies in the mouth. It's amazing how much spatter you can create with that stuff when you spit it out.... all over his lap..... (Just as a note for next time...!) A friend of mine recently told me about a date she had last month... He picked her up late, (Not from her house, she's not that dumb!) because he'd forgotten his mobile 'phone... and as she got into the car, he said "You do realise we're going dutch this evening? Don't expect me to pay for everything, will you?" As they were already moving at that point, she decided to not hurl herself out of the car.... Once at the restaurant, they sat and he chose absolutely the most expensive items on the menu - the starter, main and dessert were all in the top price brackets... then he put his mobile on the table, and was watching the Olympic games , and telling her all about his meteoric rise in the world of industrial engineering, and taking her through the construction system of a shipping crane in true "how it's made" style.... Then he kept complaining about the meal, sent the wine back saying it was corked (it wasn't) and constantly checked his mobile for sporting results. At the end of the meal, my friend grabbed her purse, wiped her mouth, and stood up saying "You must excuse me, but I have a life..." and walked out of the restaurant. She thinks he's been trying to chase her for her half of the meal, but that's not gonna work, is it? 2
oaks Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 At the end of the meal, my friend grabbed her purse, wiped her mouth, and stood up saying "You must excuse me, but I have a life..." and walked out of the restaurant. You're right, that was rude.
TaraMaiden Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 No ruder than he had been. It's called "Giving someone a taste of their own medicine". The above account was a brief summary, not a blow-by-blow report. She took a couple of hours to give me all the details... What, you want more? (Trust me, it's long... and you don't! )
oaks Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 No ruder than he had been. Agreed (almost, see below). It's called "Giving someone a taste of their own medicine". Yes, but that makes it sound deliberate, vindictive, malicious. That might even be worse. Maybe your friend was just reacting emotionally, rather than rationally choosing to be rude? Without wishing to further judge either of them, I wonder if they both went away feeling they had dodged a bullet.
TaraMaiden Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Thanks for the interest... (Not sarcasm. ) No, it wasn't emotional.. She's been single a while, having come through a dysfunctional marriage to someone who clearly had personal issues which, rather than addressing and dealing with, he just attempted to suppress, but got worse over time. She could take his erratic, often unpredictable behaviour, but when he struck her daughter (hers, not his) and sent her flying over the couch, she immediately called it quits. With some counselling and a good support group, she's come through it stronger, so her BS-tolerance is set at a fairly low level. Call it right or wrong, this guy rang all the wrong bells for her. And I would trust her judgement - she's extremely level-headed, has a 'sensible' job with quite some responsibility, and is a dedicated equestrian, so she's used to dealing with big creatures all with individually challenging temperaments....
zanesfan Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 My rudest date was when I met this guy for the first time on a date and he started touching my thighs and hips. I had to tell him to slow down. Next, he whipped out his phone and showed me his penis. I told him I had to go. He was such a pervert. So he walks me to my car and told me he was coming home with me. I said not in this lifetime. So he then pulls out his penis in front of me. I hauled ass. Two weeks later he sent me a friends request on facebook, I denied. 1
AlexCross Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 My rudest date was when I met this guy for the first time on a date and he started touching my thighs and hips. I had to tell him to slow down. Next, he whipped out his phone and showed me his penis. I told him I had to go. He was such a pervert. So he walks me to my car and told me he was coming home with me. I said not in this lifetime. So he then pulls out his penis in front of me. I hauled ass. Two weeks later he sent me a friends request on facebook, I denied. Yeah I always wanted to apologize for that lol jk
tigressA Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Back in my first month of college, I went out for sushi with someone for the first time ever. He told me the wasabi was a sweet pistachio flavored cream and let me taste of spoonful of it...he thought it was hilarious. My ex did that very same thing to me (only he said it was avocado!) and we had been together for 6+ months at that point. He thought it was hilarious too. I was pissed and refused to have sex with him for two days.
El Brujo Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 One woman kept harping on my supposed Canadian accent (I've never even been to Canada, and I wasn't raised by Canadians). I tried to be nice and ask her what kinds of activities she enjoyed, blah, blah... but she kept going back to my "Canadian accent" and hitting me over the head with it.
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