Pyro Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I was talking to a woman one day at a Pool Party, she was divorced twice. She said in her first marriage, she was young...married a guy she kind of grew up with. It hardly lasted a year....reason for the divorce....there just was no physical attraction. My jaw kinda dropped and I'm like "So why did you marry him in the first place if you weren't physically attracted to him?" Now it wasn't the case where he gained a lot of weight during the marriage....she just thought he was a good guy, respectful, gentleman, and indeed the kind of guy that IS marriage material. She thought it was a good idea at the time...but turns out he didn't do it for her physically. So, this means on the honey moon night, she had to stomach her food without throwing up after she saw him naked or something? How did she tolerate the love making during the course of their marriage? This should all be common sense. Anyone is crazy for marrying, or even being in a relationship with someone you are not attracted to. Attractiveness should always be a prerequisite to anyone before getting involved with someone.
xxoo Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I was talking to a woman one day at a Pool Party, she was divorced twice. She said in her first marriage, she was young...married a guy she kind of grew up with. It hardly lasted a year....reason for the divorce....there just was no physical attraction. My jaw kinda dropped and I'm like "So why did you marry him in the first place if you weren't physically attracted to him?" Now it wasn't the case where he gained a lot of weight during the marriage....she just thought he was a good guy, respectful, gentleman, and indeed the kind of guy that IS marriage material. She thought it was a good idea at the time...but turns out he didn't do it for her physically. So, this means on the honey moon night, she had to stomach her food without throwing up after she saw him naked or something? How did she tolerate the love making during the course of their marriage? She probably didn't have sex before marriage, and didn't know much about women's sexual response. She may have assumed that attraction would come with sex--who knows? Many young women (and not so young women) marry for love and stability, even when there is no sexual desire. Sometimes they have no basis for comparison, and don't know what kind of sexual desire is normal and possible. He's "good on paper", you love each other, and everyone expects you to get married....so they do. She may not have been repulsed by him naked. A lot of perfectly normal looking men are not sexually attractive to me, but they also are not repulsive to me. They are just neutral. Not unattractive, but I don't want to kiss them or get naked with them. Men seem to consider most reasonably attractive women as "sexually attractive". Women are generally not sexually attracted to all the reasonably attractive men they see. Chemistry, personality, mojo...whatever it is, not every attractive man gets my motor running. If the marriage only lasted a year, there was probably very little sex for her to tolerate during the marriage. 2
Recovering_Wayward Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Looks count. Most men (and I are one) have to be happy with what they see under them.
IcedEarth Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 People who base their dates/relationships on looks are scummy at best. Now, being attracted to the person is different and important. Attraction does not equal looks. I'm talking about the weirdos with specific requirements "Must be 5'10'' +, make 50k, have a BS in Business" etc. How can people be that specific and obnoxious?
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