andyournameis Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 2 weeks since we finished we are 8 days in NC.... and it hurts like hell... Yesterday was the worst day of my life I'm going through a really bad phase with my teenage son (which is not his BTW) my ex was there to support me with my son great on giving me advice on how to deal with him, he helped me through so much with him I know if I picked up the phone right now and tell him what is after happening he would be there to give me the support... Now I know we are in NC (which is his choice) I just wish he was here right now... I just feel so alone.... Please help me....Do I sound silly??
headsashed Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 No you dont sound silly,ur only 2 weeks into your BU so its normal to feel what your feeling. Im feeling a little down today and im 17 weeks into my BU,i was on here the other day posting how good ive been feeling,i know i still had bad days to come and today is 1 of them,its not as bad now though and you will feel the same as time goes on
not-a-drive-by Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Today must be a pretty bad day. 3 months since BU for me, but some reason, it hurts extra. I cried at work, came home and cried for at least 2 hours. The days will get slightly easier as it passes, but there will always be days where it's harder than others. On those days, you'll just need to cry it out or have a shoulder to lean on. The first few weeks are always the hardest. Post here if you need someone to talk to.
Sav Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 You're not alone..today has been especially hard too. Tears that havent come in awhile fell again. I'm around 2months into NC. Keep it going there
Calico Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Everyone had a really hard day today/yesterday, it seems. Is there anything unusual? Moon phase? I had a hellish day today and nearly drowned myself in the bottle (I didn't, thanks to some people who got me through this awful day with their endless understanding and loving patience. Sad when the person who just recently loved you doesn't care one bit.)
Freshstart637 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Reading all these stories makes me fell sad . I'm only in the early stages, but I do feel better. This is the time I am not going to rebound. I want my next relationship to be successful. Hang in there. Yes, this is tough, just look forward to the day when everything snaps and you are over your ex.
Author andyournameis Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Thanks everyone, I really appreciate it xxx
suladas Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Yes some days suck. I woke up today just really angry and pissed off at what my ex did to me and was in a ****ty mood. Then I came home and heard her voice outside and now i'm sad again. It's been two months, it's getting easier but it still hurts a lot. I find the toughest thing is the uncertainty of the future, it might hurt worse for a bit, but i'd almost like to see her dating someone else so it would 100% sink into my head we are over because until then there is the thought popping into my head all the time. One moment I want nothing to ever do with her again, the next I want her back. I must say though, the anger is much harder to deal with then sadness.
suladas Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Everyone had a really hard day today/yesterday, it seems. Is there anything unusual? Moon phase? I had a hellish day today and nearly drowned myself in the bottle (I didn't, thanks to some people who got me through this awful day with their endless understanding and loving patience. Sad when the person who just recently loved you doesn't care one bit.) Sorry to hear that. I must say though, it's a bit of a comfort knowing what i'm going through is completely normal and everyone for the most part goes through it to. I to have had days were you feel like you cannot go on without them. But then I realize, I got by for 23 years of my life without them, I can live without them again, eventually. Ya I will agree, the toughest part is thinking how they can change how they feel about you so quickly. My ex could call me 24 hours a day for anything and i'd be there for her in a second, broken up or not. But at the same time, I keep beating myself up thinking, maybe they do still care but are trying to hide their feelings? I don't know, my situation is a bit unique. My ex didn't leave me for anyone else, she left me because she doesn't want to date right now. And having read over all of our texts, I really should have seen the break up coming, I just figured she was telling me all of her thoughts and it was getting better......
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Totally feel like there's something in the water too. A lot of seem to be having it extra hard the last few days. It's odd, but it is a breakup forum I guess. We're all sad to an extent I think. Makes sense for some days to be harder than others.. helps to know I'm not the only one feeling this way though and that it's "normal". Hang in there.
mizzat Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 2 weeks since we finished we are 8 days in NC.... and it hurts like hell... Yesterday was the worst day of my life I'm going through a really bad phase with my teenage son (which is not his BTW) my ex was there to support me with my son great on giving me advice on how to deal with him, he helped me through so much with him I know if I picked up the phone right now and tell him what is after happening he would be there to give me the support... Now I know we are in NC (which is his choice) I just wish he was here right now... I just feel so alone.... Please help me....Do I sound silly?? Dont feel bad its been 2 weeks since me and my wife separated everyday it hurts so bad but i have to see her everyday even tho sometimes i don't want to our son taking her to work. the worst part is not holding her kissing her comforting her. We are not officially over she needs time to think what she wants but i have a feeling it is so hang in there we are all here to help u with support
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