stoneymirror Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I've just started doing this online dating thing. Met a girl last week, hit it off with her, both of us seemed very into each other. Didn't want the date to end. Spent about 7 hours together and felt good about things. Kept in touch through text almost every day afterwards. She asked a few days later when we'd see each other next, told her to pick a day. So we're suppose to go out tomorrow Friday assuming she's really into me. My only hesitation is every time I've gone back online to check messages, few times a day, she's always on the site. Even at odd times when I check. Am I jumping to conclusions or am I setting myself up for something I don't want to deal with. I'm a bit over analytical maybe I'm thinking too much but I'm sorta getting a weird feeling bout things now. Give me your interpretation
CarrieT Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 You are over-analyzing. After ONE DATE you are concerned about the girl still being on the site? BTW, I am one of those people who keep several tabs open in my computer on various sites that I am on throughout the day. It may look like I am on this site when in fact, I've walked away from my computer or opened another tab. There could be a variety of reasons but, regardless, you've only known the girl seven hours. Way too early to be concerned to discuss this issue until you've become exclusive. 1
mysteryscape Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Yes, this drives some people crazy, I wouldn't call it over-analyzing, that's one of the things about OLD, everyone knows when their favorite people are online -- checking out other people? just checking messages? you watching her and maybe vice versa. But you say you go there "several times a day" to check messages! Why the need to go there several times a day? Are you sure that's all you're doing? Or are you checking out other people too? Or just watching your girl? All the possibilities that apply to you apply to her too. You might try this: next time you see her, ask her about her approach to dating. Does she want to see several people at once? Or does she focus on one guy when she finds someone who's worth seeing repeatedly? Might be hard to do this, but better than driving yourself crazy wondering what she thinks.
Imajerk17 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I've just started doing this online dating thing. Met a girl last week, hit it off with her, both of us seemed very into each other. Didn't want the date to end. Spent about 7 hours together and felt good about things. Kept in touch through text almost every day afterwards. She asked a few days later when we'd see each other next, told her to pick a day. So we're suppose to go out tomorrow Friday assuming she's really into me. My only hesitation is every time I've gone back online to check messages, few times a day, she's always on the site. Even at odd times when I check. Am I jumping to conclusions or am I setting myself up for something I don't want to deal with. I'm a bit over analytical maybe I'm thinking too much but I'm sorta getting a weird feeling bout things now. Give me your interpretation Maybe she's on so much because she's wondering the same thing about you! Chill...
AlexCross Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Have a shot of cafe patron. If that doesn't work. Rinse and repeat. 1
Art_Critic Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 All of the above.. and would throw in the apps they have for the phones will keep you logged in as well as even checking email will log her in. Do you think that because she had a good date with you that she should not login and check to respond to her email ? She is most likely speaking to other guys and you should also be speaking to other girls too...
Author stoneymirror Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Ok guys you made some good points i am in no hurry to be in a relationship and have been on 3 dates since meeting this girl. Hope she's meeting and dating others as well. I'm not spying on her as you mentioned but am really cautious and dint want to get into another bad relationship. I get an overwhelming response on my profile and get at least 3 messages a day if not more some days. Honestly I'm overwhelmed with all of traffic. Again my main concern is dating someone who's respectable, don't want an attention whore or someone who's always looking. Thanks again for the help just wanted some signs I should look for when dating online, seems like a lot of people are creepy and have issues so I'm trying to avoid the crazies.
oldskl Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 dude if its pleny of fish then some folks use a phone app. that thing makes it look like you are logged in allllll the time. dont worry about it. at the end of the day, shes texting you a lot, so accept that every positives discounts a good 5 negatives.
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