Benneo Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 It was 1 week of NC until my ex contacted me asking me general qns on SMS, I gave her some platonic answers and she tried calling me but I know I'm not ready to talk to her yet as I can't control my emotions if I were to hear her voice, so I just told her few hours later on SMS that sorry I'm busy just now.. Just shortly after that she called again, I dint pick up oso.. I was thinking if I should account for not picking up her call or wat, cause I dint, and I might give her the impression that I don't even wanna be her fren, when it's clearly not the case, I just feel we need some serious cool down period first.. Really dunno if I did it correct and what should I do?? Should I hav picked her call that time?
TopCat22 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I think you are sensible wanting a cool-down period. The best thing would be to politely tell her that you both need some time apart without speaking. That way she knows that you are not being rude but just taking time to think things over. She can do the same. What are you hoping to get from this? Is it time to think, trying to get her back, or trying to move on?
TaraMaiden Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 It was 1 week of NC until my ex contacted me asking me general qns on SMS, I gave her some platonic answers and she tried calling me but I know I'm not ready to talk to her yet as I can't control my emotions if I were to hear her voice, so I just told her few hours later on SMS that sorry I'm busy just now.. Just shortly after that she called again, I dint pick up oso.. I was thinking if I should account for not picking up her call or wat, cause I dint, and I might give her the impression that I don't even wanna be her fren, when it's clearly not the case, I just feel we need some serious cool down period first.. Really dunno if I did it correct and what should I do?? Should I hav picked her call that time? No, you didn't do it correctly. NC means NO contact. You responded, so it wasn't NC. It was LC - LIMITED contact. If you wish to go NC - tell her one more time - "Please do NOT contact me any more, for anything. if you have random questions, ask a random friend. I don't want to know. " You can't be a friend with someone you still have any feelings for. Wait until it really doesn't bother you at all to see her with another guy, because you have so moved on. Until then - go - and stay - NO contact. Read the link in my signature....
Author Benneo Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 I think you are sensible wanting a cool-down period. The best thing would be to politely tell her that you both need some time apart without speaking. That way she knows that you are not being rude but just taking time to think things over. She can do the same. What are you hoping to get from this? Is it time to think, trying to get her back, or trying to move on? I want to think, n get her back, but I want the time n space to do so but don't wanna leave it totally nc which makes it no chance of reconciliation happening at all.. Really lost right now..
TaraMaiden Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I take it she broke up with you? If that is the case, by keeping in touch, she is "Throwing you breadcrumbs." As I advised - Read - The - Link. It's all explained in there.
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