Would it be rude to ask for a full body profile pic?

[Imajerk17]

SJC here is something else to consider: people can lose weight. I'd meet w a woman who I'm not sure about looks-wise but I like her personality, if she is working out seriously and regularly for that very reason. If thats the case w this gal, she could be a knockout by this time next year.

[Oxy Moronovich]

SJC here is something else to consider: people can lose weight. I'd meet w a woman who I'm not sure about looks-wise but I like her personality, if she is working out seriously and regularly for that very reason. If thats the case w this gal, she could be a knockout by this time next year.

The vast majority of fat chicks don't fall into this category. That's why guys avoid fat chicks.

 

OP, don't even bother going on a date with this broad. Don't date fat chicks who only show headshots or take pics with the camera pointing upward.

[phineas]

SJC here is something else to consider: people can lose weight. I'd meet w a woman who I'm not sure about looks-wise but I like her personality, if she is working out seriously and regularly for that very reason. If thats the case w this gal, she could be a knockout by this time next year.

 

That rarely turns out well whether its the guy or the girl who losses weight.

They start getting all kinds of crazy attention from the opposite sex, wind up deciding they can now do better & just go crazy.

[Imajerk17]

That rarely turns out well whether its the guy or the girl who losses weight.

They start getting all kinds of crazy attention from the opposite sex, wind up deciding they can now do better & just go crazy.

 

Which is why the self-improvement never stops. If our partners are doing their part to grow as women, we need to be doing our part to grow as men.

[Oxy Moronovich]

Which is why the self-improvement never stops. If our partners are doing their part to grow as women, we need to be doing our part to grow as men.

She's not doing her best to grow as a woman. If she was, she'd show full-sized pics. Either that or she'd start dating after losing weight.

[FitChick]

If you're dating to find a platonic friend, looks don't matter. But most people are looking for a friend AND a lover in one person so chemistry is important. If you don't like her say she isn't your type and leave her to fill in the blanks.

 

Perhaps she needs to question why she doesn't get past the first date with a guy, which would be my guess. Anyone with experience in OLD should know better. I never join for more than a month at a time, yet every week I post a new photo.

[The Way I Am]

Bluntly asking for a full-body pic is kind of rude. But I don't see anything wrong with you wanting to see one.

 

If you can't work it into conversation more naturally or gracefully, then you should just go meet her.

 

Only thing I can come up with is to ask to exchange pics of yourselves doing your hobbies. Start by sending her full body pics of yourself golfing or whatever. Not a very good suggestion, but all I can think of.

[spiderowl]

I only have face pics on my profile. I don't want guys looking me over like I'm cattle at the auction. I am average body-wise. If a guy asked me for full body pics (and they do), then I say no. If they persist, I get rid of them. If they try to find out by a more roundabout way, like asking what my dress size is, I give them the push too. I want to relate to a guy as a person. If he's determined to judge me on my body before he's even got to know me, he's not the guy for me. I'm afraid I just see these guys as extremely shallow and lacking mentally.

[mesmerized]

*Shrugs* I just know if a guy asked me for full-body shots, I'd decline to go out with him. Online dating is such a meat market already, I think a lot of women are sensitive about men choosing them entirely on their looks.

 

If someone has a fun profile or seems fine to chat with, then I think it's worth a half an hour meeting over coffee isn't a "waste of time." It's possible she's just kind of embarrassed about her body, but even a "few extra pounds" could be overlooked with the right personality.

 

At least, that's what people on this forum are always telling me... that if your personality is great, then looks don't become as important. Except in the case of full-body photos, I guess.

 

I might be the minority then. If I go on a date and he's too thin or big, I get annoyyed. I wouldn't want to sit there and act like id like to get to know him in some romantic way. Asking for a body shot is a good way to avoid these awkward moments.

[oaks]

I only have face pics on my profile. I don't want guys looking me over like I'm cattle at the auction.

 

Best delete all your photos, then.

[kaylan]

*Shrugs* I just know if a guy asked me for full-body shots, I'd decline to go out with him. Online dating is such a meat market already, I think a lot of women are sensitive about men choosing them entirely on their looks.

 

If someone has a fun profile or seems fine to chat with, then I think it's worth a half an hour meeting over coffee isn't a "waste of time." It's possible she's just kind of embarrassed about her body, but even a "few extra pounds" could be overlooked with the right personality.

 

At least, that's what people on this forum are always telling me... that if your personality is great, then looks don't become as important. Except in the case of full-body photos, I guess.

But attraction matters. I say put up full body shots and present yourself completely.

SJC here is something else to consider: people can lose weight. I'd meet w a woman who I'm not sure about looks-wise but I like her personality, if she is working out seriously and regularly for that very reason. If thats the case w this gal, she could be a knockout by this time next year.

They can also gain weight. Why waste time if they arent what you want in the beginning? You shouldnt go into something looking to change someone.

Edited September 15, 2012 by kaylan

[yongyong]

This girl messaged me on PoF. her face seemed alright but she didn't have body picture.

I asked for a body picture and I got racial comments.

 

Maybe you can just meet her. If she is really fat, just make some excuses and leave soon since you don't want to be seen with a fatty in public by other people.

This is nothing wrong since she scammed you.

[oaks]

Ask her if she likes hiking.

[FitChick]

I only have face pics on my profile. I don't want guys looking me over like I'm cattle at the auction. If a guy asked me for full body pics (and they do), then I say no. I want to relate to a guy as a person. If he's determined to judge me on my body before he's even got to know me, he's not the guy for me. I'm afraid I just see these guys as extremely shallow and lacking mentally.

So you would agree to meet a man who had no photos or only a head shot?

[yongyong]

Every time I come across an American woman like this, I am totally disgusted. I think it's part of their culture.

Why do they say such dumb things to appear as 'humane person' OR Is she really like what she claims to be?

 

dating is not like job market. What is dating in your head?

Is it just having some intellectual conversation?? maybe just holding hands???

After you guys connect mentally, you guys will have sex. you guys will lick each other's genitals too (which is lovely)

So are you saying you can do it with a guy just because he can carry a conversation with you?

you wouldn't care about his looks at all?

 

I am pretty sure you want to hide your body.

I've never seen attractive girls saying 'it's about personality'

Only girls with bad looks say such things.

 

 

 

I only have face pics on my profile. I don't want guys looking me over like I'm cattle at the auction. I am average body-wise. If a guy asked me for full body pics (and they do), then I say no. If they persist, I get rid of them. If they try to find out by a more roundabout way, like asking what my dress size is, I give them the push too. I want to relate to a guy as a person. If he's determined to judge me on my body before he's even got to know me, he's not the guy for me. I'm afraid I just see these guys as extremely shallow and lacking mentally.

[sweetheart5381]

A lot of women who list themselves as average are not average and should really list themselves a few extra/bbw. She lists herself a few extra and has all head shots so the combination of those two factors is what has me concerned.

 

FYI- I list myself as average and I am told time and time again that I am NOT average after we meet... I'm a size 8, 5"7 medium build, 135 lbs and work out but not a body builder so never choose athletic. I also only show a face pic now to filter the ones looking for intimate encounters.

 

I was asked to show a body pic to my last date and I found it insulting. I intend to actually meet people so therefore I don't lie on any dating site.

 

Give her some credit.

[Titanwolf]

One of the pitfalls of online dating I guess. People have the ability to manipulate their surroundings like that. Had you seen her in real life, you wouldn't be asking this question and it is for this very reason that I retain the belief that, OLD is just plain unnatural. Just ask her, the world isn't going to explode if you do.

[sweetheart5381]

One of the pitfalls of online dating I guess. People have the ability to manipulate their surroundings like that. Had you seen her in real life, you wouldn't be asking this question and it is for this very reason that I retain the belief that, OLD is just plain unnatural. Just ask her, the world isn't going to explode if you do.

 

Agreed, online dating is totally unnatural. If you happen to meet someone in person, have a great conversation, have some sort of natural attraction you are far better off than becoming words and graphics on a page to be deciphered by perceptions about.. well not you, but about online dating personalities, etc. Misconceptions are a killer driven by a lack of real-life communication.

[Titanwolf]

Agreed, online dating is totally unnatural. If you happen to meet someone in person, have a great conversation, have some sort of natural attraction you are far better off than becoming words and graphics on a page to be deciphered by perceptions about.. well not you, but about online dating personalities, etc. Misconceptions are a killer driven by a lack of real-life communication.

 

I fully agree. You build up an expectation based on factors that you are led to believe, not on factors you come to realize on your own accord. First impressions from OLD vs first impressions in RL. I believe RL is the one that allows you to remain entirely realistic about what you're dealing with, as opposed to (as you said), misconceptions conceived online.

[SJC2008]

We're meeing tonight. I'll keep everyone posted about the date and if there was a surprise lol.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I've been chatting with a very nice woman online. She initiated contact so I'm weary about that (IME women who initiate online are quick to gig). Anyway I find her attractive but she has herself listed as a few extra pounds and only has head shots.

 

First of all, I'm not shooting for bikini models so I don't think I"m being shallow. The few extra pounds listing doesn't bother me, the only face pics do. My rule of thumb if you will is, as long as she's not bigger than me ratio wise and I'm attracted, we're go flight! The last woman who had all face pics LITERALLY had a bigger stomach than me, not proportionately.

 

Would it be rude of me to ask for a full body pic? How would I do it? I don't think I could bring myself to it IMO.

 

Online dating is a risk. You like her enough based on the information you have. Meeting people and getting to know them is about learning about them and yourself and seeing what you like or don't. There are no absoluetes. Not mentally, not emotionally and not physically.

 

You can ask her for a full body shot but she doesn't owe you anything. Not even a full body pic. You also don't owe her anything, such as if she asked how much you make because maybe the last guy she dated ended up always making her pay for everything..see, we can justify anything.

 

I understand your concerns. I don't think you sound unreasonable. I just dislike how in online dating, everyone thinks they are privy to information automatically like they are picking out candy from a vending machine then taking a risk and seeing if they like someone.

 

If you want to see more of her, ask her out in person. If you meet her and aren't attracted, no problem.

[soccerrprp]

I fully agree. You build up an expectation based on factors that you are led to believe, not on factors you come to realize on your own accord. First impressions from OLD vs first impressions in RL. I believe RL is the one that allows you to remain entirely realistic about what you're dealing with, as opposed to (as you said), misconceptions conceived online.

 

OLD pics tell you a lot about a person, if they are recent, especially. If you are not into a specific body type, no need to waste time on an actual date because you see her/him. I believe it's actually better to have something to mentally work with provided the pics online are recent. If you decide from there that he/she is worth meeting, then, of course, real-life contact will help with the rest.

[SJC2008]

We met up and if she's a few extra pounds I should list myself as slender and I'm no light weight at 5'10" 220. OTOH she is very pretty and has a movie star rack. That being said if she had full pics I never would of went out with her. I know it sounds mean but like I said I'm not shooting for bikini girls and have no problems with women who are a little chunky but where do you draw the line? Am I shallow if I don't want to date a woman who is bigger than me proportionatley? What about literally? She literally has a bigger stomach than me IMO. I did have a good time so I'll ask her for another date and keep my options open as I'm messaging a few other women.

[CC12]

That's nice that you had a good time, even though she turned out to be not your type.

 

You said you don't want to date her, so why are you going to ask her out on another date? If you want to see her again, I hope you make it clear that you only want to be friends.

[LittlePrince]

I've been chatting with a very nice woman online. She initiated contact so I'm weary about that (IME women who initiate online are quick to gig). Anyway I find her attractive but she has herself listed as a few extra pounds and only has head shots.

 

First of all, I'm not shooting for bikini models so I don't think I"m being shallow. The few extra pounds listing doesn't bother me, the only face pics do. My rule of thumb if you will is, as long as she's not bigger than me ratio wise and I'm attracted, we're go flight! The last woman who had all face pics LITERALLY had a bigger stomach than me, not proportionately.

 

Would it be rude of me to ask for a full body pic? How would I do it? I don't think I could bring myself to it IMO.

As long as you use eye condoms for your eye fcking so she doesn't get an unexpected eyebaby everything should be cool.