Should I attempt to start over?

[elizaran]

I had this guy friend (lets call him John) who I was interested in, he however did not feel the same way. He introduced me to his friend (lets call him Max) and we connected straight away and months later he revealed how he felt towards me. I was honest with him and told him that I liked him also, but I still felt some feelings towards John too. Myself and John kept a lot of distance for a while, so he would soon become out of the picture.

 

Long story, cut short. John and I started to fool around. There was no emotional connection between us. Max was told of what happened. I guess when John and I were fooling around I didn't realise how strong my feelings were towards Max. I liked him a lot. I sent Max a message a few days later asking if we could talk, but he did not respond.

 

Months have passed since all that happened. I still have feelings for Max and I was wondering should I attempt to start things over with him?

[Sav]

If you truly regret it, go for it. But understand that you may hurt yourself even more in the process. It's up to you to weigh the pros and the cons. Is Max worth it? If he is, go for it

[CC12]

I was wondering should I attempt to start things over with him?

 

You can try, but it might not go anywhere. I think it's likely that Max will not be interested in dating you. If you can handle the rejection, then go for it.

[elizaran]

I will give it some extra time. Maybe we'll hang out in a friend group first to see if he has forgiven me. If he doesn't forgive me, so be it, I have no one else to blame but myself and my stupid actions.

[CC12]

Maybe we'll hang out in a friend group first to see if he has forgiven me.

 

That would be a good way to gauge his feelings toward you.

 

If he doesn't forgive me, so be it, I have no one else to blame but myself and my stupid actions.

 

I don't know that I would call what you did stupid, necessarily. Don't beat yourself up.