Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 if your boyfriend gave you a free tube of lube as a first gift?
Balzac Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) Not quite getting why the need to call the gift "free". Is this gift an early warning as too your dick size? Edited September 14, 2012 by Balzac Masculine responder and laughing big time
Author Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 First off, I'm a woman. Secondly, the lube was a free sample he picked up.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 First off, I'm a woman. Secondly, the lube was a free sample he picked up. I'd assume it was a joke. Did he actually say "this is a gift for you" in a serious tone, or was he just kidding around? If we'd been dating for a while I might find it funny. But I'm guessing this is a new boyfriend? A little context might help. How long have you been dating?
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) We'd been dating for about three months. It was the first gift he gave me, and he seemed pretty serious. At least when I opened it (sort of in a shocked daze) and then knocked it over accidentally and spilled it, he looked annoyed. I really don't even know what to think. He's always so affectionate and attentive. Was this some sort of insulting gesture, or is he merely completely clueless? You say you "opened" it, so do you mean he...gift-wrapped a free bottle of lube?? I agree, this is just weird. Honestly I have no idea how I would react! I'd be dumbfounded. Your last question can't really be answered by us though...we know nothing about his personality nuances. Three months is enough time for you to be comfortable discussing it. Playfully say, "hey, so were you serious about that lube gift? It's a little weird...are you trying to tell me something?" Edited September 14, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 No, he didn't gift-wrap it. I took the cap off.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 No, he didn't gift-wrap it. I took the cap off. Ahh, I see. Sorry for the confusion.
Author Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 He wasn't being playful. I can easily tell when he's being playful. He was quite serious. Plus he looked pretty annoyed when I spilled it.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 He wasn't being playful. I can easily tell when he's being playful. He was quite serious. Well, I agree then, that's super weird. Are you considering whether this is a deal-breaker? Because that depends on how much you like him, I guess. Giving a "serious" gift of a (free) bottle of lube and then being annoyed when you spilled some of it spells all kind of weird things to me...I can't really say much beyond "weird". Perhaps he was trying to be sexy, it didn't come across right, and he felt embarrassed, so he got annoyed as a defense mechanism? I really am trying to think of every scenario possible where this guy isn't a slightly cheap, slightly uptight total weirdo. I guess if things were otherwise awesome, it wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me. If this was followed by my birthday gift being a free cock-ring, might be a different story.
Author Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 At this point, I feel upset and confused. I want to know how other women would react in my place. Laugh it off? Give him a roll of toilet paper in return? Or break up?
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 At this point, I feel upset and confused. I want to know how other women would react in my place. Laugh it off? Give him a roll of toilet paper in return? Or break up? Like I said, I've given you my perspective to the best of my ability with the limited information available... My instantaneous reaction would be confusion. Maybe laughter depending on our relationship dynamic. Long-term, that's up to you, and how much you like this guy. If I was on the fence about a guy and then this happened, that would be the end of things. If I put myself in the shoes of it being my current BF when we were three months in, whom I was/am totally enamoured with, I probably would have found it odd but let it go and hope it's a one-time thing. Because I was extremely into him, I would have overlooked this and considered it a fluke. If the pattern of odd, dirty, free "gifts" that were expected to be taken seriously continued, it would have been a problem.
Author Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) Well, I agree then, that's super weird. Are you considering whether this is a deal-breaker? Because that depends on how much you like him, I guess. Yes, I am definitely considering that. It's really hard though. He's my first love. I was crazy about him, and he seemed equally crazy about me. I lost my virginity to him. If this was followed by my birthday gift being a free cock-ring, might be a different story. Thanks for making me laugh. LOL Edited September 14, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Personal information
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) Yes, I am definitely considering that. It's really hard though. He's my first love. I was crazy about him, and he seemed equally crazy about me. I lost my virginity to him. My boyfriend went to a baseball game with his friends last week while I was at work and I met him at his place after. He brought me a bag of those cinnamon roasted almonds they sell at ballparks, which he knows are my favourite! I'm sure they didn't cost him more than 5 bucks, but it made my day because he thought of me and it was so sweet of him to want to brighten my day a bit. There are plenty of inexpensive or even free options that are a bit more thoughtful than, well, lube. Edited September 14, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
Author Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) My boyfriend went to a baseball game with his friends last week while I was at work and I met him at his place after. He brought me a bag of those cinnamon roasted almonds they sell at ballparks, which he knows are my favourite! I'm sure they didn't cost him more than 5 bucks, but it made my day because he thought of me and it was so sweet of him to want to brighten my day a bit. There are plenty of inexpensive or even free options that are a bit more thoughtful than, well, lube. That sounds sweet. The five dollar pendant was my Christmas present. Edited September 14, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 That sounds sweet. The five dollar pendant was my Christmas present. Is this his first relationship, too? Have you gotten him any gifts?
Author Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Is this his first relationship, too? Have you gotten him any gifts? Third and yes.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Third and yes. What's an example of a gift you've given him?
Author Snarkles Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 But, it wasn't my original intention to turn this thread into a personal vent. I just wanted to know how other women would feel if their boyfriend gave them lube as a first gift.
Pompom Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I would laugh and think it's funny but I would not read or nurture any feelings into that and take it as a "Remember that time when you"-joke.
veggirl Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 I would be confused. I would say "...why are you giving me lube?" and then I'd go from there. eta: what was the occasion? just a random "gift" of lube?
eleanorrigby Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 At this point, I feel upset and confused. I want to know how other women would react in my place. Laugh it off? Give him a roll of toilet paper in return? Or break up? My husband did something almost exactly like this early in our marriage. I lost my sh*t on him and it became a point of contention that we have never really worked out. It's become a thorn in the side of our marriage actually. So, my advice is, try to stay calm.
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