blue_jay_bird Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) Yesterday i saw my ex as a final good bye. I felt he gave me breadcrumbs cause he said, in a couple months id like to get coffee with you. I said yes, the next day i regretted this. I was upset, called him saying " I can't be friends with you, only call me if you want a second chance" he said, "that's not going to happen, i think we are done" Cried my eye's out."I called him again, saying i'd like to talk in person" we set up a meeting. Then i started thinking, and getting really frustrated thinking "i'm awesome, he is an idiot." "If he wants to walk away from me, then **** him" I text him calling off the meeting, saying "There is no point in us meeting, as you said "It's over." He responded "I understand" BREAKING NC makes you do crazy things. WALK AWAY, At lest i didn't met up with him again. I still think down the line he will come back. I haven't learned my lesson. Edited September 14, 2012 by blue_jay_bird
Zahara Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Reading your threads, it seems you were very much fighting the truth. Now, you have it. He's given it to you, bluntly. It's painful but maybe it is time to stop fooling yourself as you did in past threads and start facing facts. Believe whatever it is you need, in that he will be back. But for now, he isn't so keep NC. Stop begging.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Believe whatever it is you need, in that he will be back. But for now, he isn't so keep NC. Stop begging. Well it's a good think it wasn't hard core begging like. "Can't you give us another chance." " How could you throw away seven years, without trying to work through things". Cause i was going to say those thing if i met up with him again. Looking on the bright side, it wasn't that pathetic, could have been a lot worse. Truth: He doesn't want to be with me. NC, move on.
geegirl Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Yesterday i saw my ex as a final good bye. I felt he gave me breadcrumbs cause he said, in a couple months id like to get coffee with you. I said yes, the next day i regretted this. I was upset, called him saying " I can't be friends with you, only call me if you want a second chance" he said, "that's not going to happen, i think we are done" Cried my eye's out."I called him again, saying i'd like to talk in person" we set up a meeting. Then i started thinking, and getting really frustrated thinking "i'm awesome, he is an idiot." "If he wants to walk away from me, then **** him" I text him calling off the meeting, saying "There is no point in us meeting, as you said "It's over." He responded "I understand" BREAKING NC makes you do crazy things. WALK AWAY, At lest i didn't met up with him again. I still think down the line he will come back. I haven't learned my lesson. You've been all over the place. One day you are happy for him, next you want him back, then you want to meet to say good bye, then you don't want to meet, etc. This is what NC will do. Your emotions will come in waves. Do you react? NO. When you react, this is what you will do to yourself. Just believe that it's feelings, just feelings and that they will come and they will pass. Reacting doesn't change the truth or his feelings for you. I know how you feel. Like ants crawling all over you, you just have to let it out. But he can't comfort you, because his answer will remain the same. The only thing you can and must do is feel the pain, let it come and let it pass, because it will pass. When it comes back again, feel it and let it pass. You are driving him crazy and yourself up the wall. Not only that, you are slowly eroding your self-respect. Chasing a man doesn't only make you look desperate, it pushes the other person away. It's unappealing and that will only tarnish how he already views you. Imagine if you didn't want to be with someone, and they kept doing this? It would annoy you and you'd most likely be turned off. Please try to stay NC. The alternative doesn't change a thing. 1
Calico Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Imagine if you didn't want to be with someone, and they kept doing this? It would annoy you and you'd most likely be turned off. Please try to stay NC. The alternative doesn't change a thing. Everyone should print that out and hang it on the wall, myself included. I've just spent the past three hours battling the urge to drop her a note, something like, "I miss you." or "Are you afraid of being with me?", and my mind kept suggesting that she wants to be with me, but for some reason holds back, and therefore nudging would be a good idea. It's all self-deception, though, and feels every bit like alcohol withdrawal. If they want to come back, there is nothing that will stop them, so it's best to just "let go" and keep inching forward. The urge to "do" something (the same things you've done a dozen times before already) will eventually lessen and become more manageable. But god, it is hard.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 Imagine if you didn't want to be with someone, and they kept doing this? It would annoy you and you'd most likely be turned off. Please try to stay NC. The alternative doesn't change a thing. Yeah, I'm just glad i slipped up once. So, i chalk this up to my second break up. I needed it, if you read my last posts i was in so much denial. NC forever.
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