Deducing my ex-girlfriend's behavior.

[omarthedude]

Okay so I'll just get right to the point, 3 months ago I met this girl, got into a relationship with her and a little over a week ago, she said she needed a month or so on her own. And in her own words, 'If this break drifts us apart, that's okay.'

 

I told her straight up that it isn't going to work if you need a break every time I say something you don't like or get even a little irritated at you say you're not in the mood to see me and use me as a tool. That is really all I said. We didn't talk for the rest of the day, and the next day I thought it was useless to put up with this and we both broke up, to which she agreed. And we both admitted that we were still madly in love with each other (it's true!)

 

Being a guy and not being able to avoid my natural instincts, I broke down and wrote an email and said, 'We have our differences. No relationship is perfect, my love. If we both have feelings for each other, there's no point in going through this. If you feel the same way I do, let's just fix what is broken and work it out.' To which she replied, 'Even though I do. I can't. I'm going to move on. You should too! Please don't email me or text me, I'm going to delete your number to forget about you.'

 

That's all we said and haven't spoken to each other for about a week. The funny thing is, she deleted my MSN (which I could obviously see) and then added me back the next day.

 

I used Matt Huston's Ex2 System and the No Contact method in it. And basically, started going on dates with other women (trying to move on) and wrote display messages about them.

 

Out of the blue she says on her MSN display, 'You don't bother me as much as you think you do. I've met enough people to help me move on.' I told her that I thought that whatever happened was for the best. She said, 'Good!'

 

Today, she's been trying to get me jealous by writing things on MSN like, 'This guy at my workplace is so HOT! He's taking me out to lunch for 'business'. It's a start.'

 

Now, I'm not paranoid since these messages are coming right after I post something about being busy and having fun with my friends and girls.

 

I STILL have feelings for her. And I would love to have her back in my arms again. She's the only girl I've EVER felt this way about. LOL!

 

Naturally, I think she's trying to rub it into my face and get under my skin. Maybe she wants me back? (I'd love that!) What do you guys think? And what should I do? Should I continue with No contact until she misses me more or tell her how I feel and start the whole desperate cycle again? LOL!

[amaysngrace]

Okay so I'll just get right to the point, 3 months ago I met this girl, got into a relationship with her and a little over a week ago, she said she needed a month or so on her own. And in her own words, 'If this break drifts us apart, that's okay.'

 

I told her straight up that it isn't going to work if you need a break every time I say something you don't like or get even a little irritated at you say you're not in the mood to see me and use me as a tool. That is really all I said. We didn't talk for the rest of the day, and the next day I thought it was useless to put up with this and we both broke up, to which she agreed. And we both admitted that we were still madly in love with each other (it's true!)

 

Being a guy and not being able to avoid my natural instincts, I broke down and wrote an email and said, 'We have our differences. No relationship is perfect, my love. If we both have feelings for each other, there's no point in going through this. If you feel the same way I do, let's just fix what is broken and work it out.' To which she replied, 'Even though I do. I can't. I'm going to move on. You should too! Please don't email me or text me, I'm going to delete your number to forget about you.'

 

That's all we said and haven't spoken to each other for about a week. The funny thing is, she deleted my MSN (which I could obviously see) and then added me back the next day.

 

I used Matt Huston's Ex2 System and the No Contact method in it. And basically, started going on dates with other women (trying to move on) and wrote display messages about them.

 

Out of the blue she says on her MSN display, 'You don't bother me as much as you think you do. I've met enough people to help me move on.' I told her that I thought that whatever happened was for the best. She said, 'Good!'

 

Today, she's been trying to get me jealous by writing things on MSN like, 'This guy at my workplace is so HOT! He's taking me out to lunch for 'business'. It's a start.'

 

Now, I'm not paranoid since these messages are coming right after I post something about being busy and having fun with my friends and girls.

 

I STILL have feelings for her. And I would love to have her back in my arms again. She's the only girl I've EVER felt this way about. LOL!

 

Naturally, I think she's trying to rub it into my face and get under my skin. Maybe she wants me back? (I'd love that!) What do you guys think? And what should I do? Should I continue with No contact until she misses me more or tell her how I feel and start the whole desperate cycle again? LOL!

 

Just block her completely from your life and move on.

 

If you get back together you're both just going to fight about what you've been doing when you weren't together.

 

Just drop off the face of the earth to her. And keep having fun without her.

[Balzac]

Listen to her. Move on. Stop trying to figure out why she told you NO

[Simon Phoenix]

You aren't exactly instituting no contact if you go out of your way to update your love life to make her jealous, or are reading her replies to that for that matter. No contact means no contact. If you feel like you are updating a status so she'll read it, don't update it. Just live your life and stop wondering about what she could possibly think about what you are doing.

[yoman38]

hold on a second did I just hear the words deducing a woman's behavior, lol as if their a practical way to use deduction here to figure out how a girl acts that sounds crazy to me. Let go man, you got to push yourself to let go.

[TopCat22]

You need to stop playing games. She's seen through your act of making her jealous and is doing the same. It's like some sort of nuclear arms race. The more you escalate the more she will too.

 

If you two stand any chance then you need to back off. One thing I've learnt is that when a woman asks for space they mean it. No amount of words will change her mind. Go NC. If she processes her feelings and realises she wants you, she will be back. If she doesn't she won't.

 

Go NC. Stop posting updates. Chances are it will drive her crazy not knowing what you are doing. But that's not the point. Use that time to heal and see how you really feel about her.