wollenglove Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I have posted about this guy before but a lot has happened since then and wanted to get some opinions as I am not the greatest at this kind of thing. I have been 'seeing' someone who I met on a dating site now for about 4/5 months. When I say seeing, things started off very casual and to be honest we hardlt saw each other, maybe once a month or once every three weeks. It started as more of a physical thing, something I don't really do anyway but things felt different so I went ahead with it. In that time he would be in touch frequently, mostly every day. We had a night out where he invited me out drinking with him and his friends. During that night he kept walking with me and trying to hold my hand, holding it under the table, that kind of thing. He would invite me to his house but only when his parents were away. Another night he invited me to a friends house with him, where we all had a drink and just relaxed before going to sleep, nothing happened this particular time but he slept behind my with his arms around me, something he always does when we are together for the night. We also visited a hotel twice because we both still live with parents at the moment. Things continued like this for some time, as nothing seemed to progress, I didn't think it would go anywhere and just thought it was a matter of time before it fizzled out or something of that nature. Recently, I stayed at his house again as his parents were away again which was a Friday night about a month ago. It was like any other night we had spent together. He told me that the following night his friends were coming over to stay and have a drink as they were all leaving early go so somewhere on the Sunday morning (a hobbie they all share). He told me that of course I was welcome to stay down that night too and also mentioned they would be going out for a meal Saturday evening and asked me to go along. We spent the next day lazing around watching tv. He kept insisitng I should go with them for the meal and as I wasn't sure whether I should, he said if I didn't go I should come back over later. In the end I decided to join them and stayed that evening to. We were all up pretty late and were up early Sunday and he told me that if he had a spare key he would leave me there to sleep. The weekend after this I stayed again on the Friday and Satruday evening. Again his parents were away and were due back Sunday evening. I was planning on leaving before their return but they eded up coming home early when I was still there. He introduced me to them and we chatted a little, the usual questions like what do you do? and where did you meet? This past weekend he invited me over again on Friday night saying that his parents were gone for the evening. I thought they would be away all night but they retruned late in the evening and I met them again. After his mother had gone to bed, she called into him and said that there is a spare dressing gown in the cupboard for (my name). So this makes me think that they know there is something going on. The weekend before when I stayed all weekend, his friends dropped by as I was leaving and were actually at the door as I was going through it. It seemed as if they also knew something was going on as he followed me out and they said they would "wait" down the road a little. He inisisted that I had left a bag of mine in the house when I didn't think I had, He then followed me back into the house and gave me a hug in the kitchen, so I am unsure if he did this deliberately or not.... For the first time in all this time he invited me to the cinema as he and his friends were going to see a movie that they really wanted to see. During the movie he would nudge me and tickle my leg or arm, and it seemed like he placed his hand near enough for me to hold it but I didn't or course as I was unsure. After the movie he had to goto work across town, and his friends and him naturally assumed that he would be travelling with me in my car. When I dropped him off he gave my a kiss and got out of the car. I am unsure how all this may sound to some of you. My good friend tells me that she is sure from all this that he is interested but I really don't know. There are positive signs and bad. He is in contact numerous times a day and it is always him initiating the contact. He either puts his arm around me or rests his hand on my leg when we are watching tv, sounds silly but always makes me cups of tea, offering to change my mug even if it's a fresh cup because he's seen a mug there with bags and shoes on, silly little things like that. And for the bad things... He told me even before we met that he was absolutely terrified of relationships and fears that he will never be good enough for anyone. Whilst drunk (stupid I know) I told him twice that I liked him but he didn't say anything, this was back in the early days and I haven't said anything of the sort since. And the worst thing, I think he is still on the site we met on. My friend seems to think that he does like me but is unsure how to get it across and that he is unsure if I like him so he is hedging his bets incase it doesn't work out. So sorry that this is soooo long. There is probably a lot more to this story but I will leave it here for now. Thanks for reading
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