kitkatz29 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I'm dating this guy with a really good job/career. It's a somewhat high position in his company and as a result is very demanding on his time. He is out of town 2 days a week every week, and when he is in town he puts in a lot of late*hours. In addition, he also has a side business that he owns and works on part time which can sometimes mean more travel for work. As a result, our time together is very limited. * One of my friends was dating a lawyer a few months ago who had recently started his own practice and was in a similar situation when it came to the amount of time they actually got to spend together. It sparked a conversation about dating successful career men vs dating less successful men. I'm not one of those women who will only date rich successful men. God knows, I've dated my share of broke guys. And while the guy I'm dating now does*well for himself, he is not rich by any means. So I don't really care how much money a guy makes, as long as he makes enough to support HIMself.**With that said, I do like the idea of dating a successful man (as I'm sure every women does).*However, for me personally it's more so b/c I want a guy who is ambitious and*career oriented. Anyway, my friend and I kind of feel, based on our experiences, that you kind of have to choose between* dating a successful*guy with a career*who has barely any time for you or dating a less successful guy with just a regular job who has more time. There doesn't seem to really be a happy medium. * I'm curious as to the experiences of other people who have dated or are dating successful men or even women. Anybody out there been in similar situations? How often did you or do you*get to see your sigficant other? How often did you talk?*How did that relationship work out? * *
KungFuJoe Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I'm successful. And I work from home, 10-20 hours a week...MAYBE. One of my best friends used to just work three days a week and set his own hours for years. That is until he decided to open his own pharmacy and now he's working 6 days a week, 10 hours a day.
Balzac Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 (edited) Within every career there are multiple tracks. I think what you are not seeing is early career versus mid career. Many who are fortunate enough to secure a career in BigLaw or iBanking or Scientific research must serve 7 years of endentured servitude prior to making equity partner, major bonus status or senior status. It's just the lay of the land. MOST will lateral out to achieve. Some view lateral out positions as the happy medium you describe. Edited September 13, 2012 by Balzac
musemaj11 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Every woman wants a rich man and every man wants a hot woman. Love is an illusion. Its nothing but veiled prostitution. Men buy women sell.
Balzac Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Whittled it down to basics! Not disagreeing. Made me smile. The trick is to ferret out the beauty who doesn't whine when we devote ourselves to our career. Just sayin, play fair.
veggirl Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I won't date a work a holic. I would take a regular 40 hr a week "less successful" (you are basing success on $$ earned in your OP) man in this situation any day.
suladas Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 How isn't there a happy medium? I work from 35-45 hours a week generally. No crazy hours just m-f. Make very good money for my age of 23, already own my own house so I would say i'm quite successful for my age anyway. Sure I could work more and have more money but working that much allows me plenty of free time. I wouldn't want someone who worked a crazy amount of hours, but at the same time I wouldn't want someone who can't support themselves or where I have to pay for everything. Someone who makes slightly above average money would be perfect for me.
Balzac Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Success is not always measured by $. Many measure by power or contribution to society. Many public servants earn well but are not wealthy, they work many hours, contribute positives to society. I can appreciate and respect an individual's choosing against potential partners who live to contribute/work.
Shaun-Dro Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I'm dating this guy with a really good job/career. It's a somewhat high position in his company and as a result is very demanding on his time. He is out of town 2 days a week every week, and when he is in town he puts in a lot of late*hours. In addition, he also has a side business that he owns and works on part time which can sometimes mean more travel for work. As a result, our time together is very limited. * One of my friends was dating a lawyer a few months ago who had recently started his own practice and was in a similar situation when it came to the amount of time they actually got to spend together. It sparked a conversation about dating successful career men vs dating less successful men. I'm not one of those women who will only date rich successful men. God knows, I've dated my share of broke guys. How the relationships go with the broke, unsuccessful men? I'm curious to learn about the things you two did and how long it lasted because I notice that only very few select women go for poor blokes.
GirlontheLam Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 This is a tough one. I am probably going to say I want the "successful" man based on your definition. Because frankly I am a lot more like that person. I have a fairly demanding job. Sometimes I work late. Or early. Or travel. And it helps to have a partner that understands that. I also know I want to start my own business at some point and I'll be putting in the hours to make that happen too. Ideally? Maybe we can work from home together on our businesses or find a little bit of togetherness even while we are working. The drawback of course is especially apparent in the initial phases of dating. A met an entrepreneur the other week. He is cute. He lives like 2 miles from me. I had a great conversation with him. We have lots in common. He sent over all kinds of hints (I am single!) We were chatting about meeting up sometime soon, because he just moved to my city and I am the "resident tour guide." There is only one problem. He is at crunch time for his business -- product launch. He emailed me and said we should meet up for drinks/whatever. In like 2 weeks after his product launch. I get it though. Because I am headed into one of the busiest weeks of the year for me. So I don't have much time either. But I guess the getting to know you phase is going to have to wait a little longer. I don't care about the $$$. I care about the passion/ambition/goals.
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