Imajerk17 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 (edited) I came across this newsletter email the other day. It's from Adam Lyons. Yes he is what you might call a PUA but his message is truly on point, and conveys an attitude--one I wish more of the guys on this forum would adapt for themselves. Enjoy! ************************************* Hey, I see a lot of guys start off trying to improve themselves, their eyes full of fire and a new bounce in their step, but it doesn't take long for them to crash and burn, taking their enthusiasm with them. It leaves a lot of guys wondering, "Is there really anything to this stuff? Can a man who's never had success with women change enough to change their results?" A lot of guys start thinking that this stuff is a bunch of hype and there's no hope. The Usual "Effort" But if you really look at what is going on here, you can glimpse a different picture. All guys "fail" with women-even the men who get the hottest picks. In fact, in my experience, the men who do the best on the dating scene are the men who have failed the most. They go fail and fail and fail some more until they finally start getting it right. And even then, when everyone else considers them a lady's man, they still continue to have plenty of shut downs. The difference is they don't let it affect them. Then you get a guy who would rather feel like a victim than try. He goes out there, learns a couple canned pickup lines, and then tries them out at the bar. You can see in his walk and his talk that he doesn't believe in himself, and he falls flat on his face. But instead of sticking it out, rolling with his punches, and slowly redesigning himself from the inside out, he tucks his tail between his legs and crawls back into a hole, deciding that his "failure" is proof that there is no hope. "You either "get it" with women, or you don't," he decides. Well, that's a load of BS. The Difference Between Failing and Quitting What really happened is not that this man failed, he quit-plain and simple. And when you quit, you never give yourself a chance to get better. In fact, it's that mentality that has many men doing poorly with women in the first place-women know a man who gets what he wants when they see one. You've heard the clichés about getting back up more than you fall, etc, a million times, so I'm not trying to repeat them-we all really do know the difference between winners and losers, and it has little to do with natural talent. If you really want something, you go get it. And if you don't get it on the first shot, you try again. And again. And again... It's just like any other endeavor. For every boxing champion there are a million men with a brand new pair of boxing gloves and an unused bag sitting in the garage-they never failed at boxing; they just chose to stop trying when they saw how hard it was to get up in the morning and move your arms (and that's just the START of what it takes to succeed at a sport like boxing). Most People "Quit" At Everything They Try to Do The truth about excellence is that it is rewarded to those who reach for it. Then everyone else sits back and shakes their head, wondering why some get all the "talent" and are so "lucky." Cry me a river. Keep feeling sorry for yourself. Because until you take it upon yourself to make a change-by suffering the effort first rather than digging up some magic bullet-feeling sorry for yourself is your only escape FROM yourself. It's an excuse. I watched a video on a marketing forum yesterday where a man talked about how so many people are afraid to even TRY to start a business because "the failure rate is so high." The truth of the matter is, he points out, that most people "quit" before they ever "fail". Think back to the last person you know who wanted something or wanted to change themselves in some way and actually followed through with that. Can you think of anybody? You know what, I don't think you can. And this is why: Because it is so RARE. It's time to DECIDE what kind of man you want to be-and go out there and do it. Edited September 13, 2012 by Imajerk17 3
AlexCross Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I kinda agree with you. Most people are terrified of change, scared to come out their comfort zone, take the path of least resistance. Perserverance is a great trait to have. I know I have it. I have tried many times and failed, but never quit. Quitting is not an endearing trait.
ThaWholigan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I came across this newsletter email the other day. It's from Adam Lyons. Yes he is what you might call a PUA but his message is truly on point, and conveys an attitude--one I wish more of the guys on this forum would adapt for themselves. Enjoy! ************************************* Hey, I see a lot of guys start off trying to improve themselves, their eyes full of fire and a new bounce in their step, but it doesn't take long for them to crash and burn, taking their enthusiasm with them. It leaves a lot of guys wondering, "Is there really anything to this stuff? Can a man who's never had success with women change enough to change their results?" A lot of guys start thinking that this stuff is a bunch of hype and there's no hope. The Usual "Effort" But if you really look at what is going on here, you can glimpse a different picture. All guys "fail" with women-even the men who get the hottest picks. In fact, in my experience, the men who do the best on the dating scene are the men who have failed the most. They go fail and fail and fail some more until they finally start getting it right. And even then, when everyone else considers them a lady's man, they still continue to have plenty of shut downs. The difference is they don't let it affect them. Then you get a guy who would rather feel like a victim than try. He goes out there, learns a couple canned pickup lines, and then tries them out at the bar. You can see in his walk and his talk that he doesn't believe in himself, and he falls flat on his face. But instead of sticking it out, rolling with his punches, and slowly redesigning himself from the inside out, he tucks his tail between his legs and crawls back into a hole, deciding that his "failure" is proof that there is no hope. "You either "get it" with women, or you don't," he decides. Well, that's a load of BS. The Difference Between Failing and Quitting What really happened is not that this man failed, he quit-plain and simple. And when you quit, you never give yourself a chance to get better. In fact, it's that mentality that has many men doing poorly with women in the first place-women know a man who gets what he wants when they see one. You've heard the clichés about getting back up more than you fall, etc, a million times, so I'm not trying to repeat them-we all really do know the difference between winners and losers, and it has little to do with natural talent. If you really want something, you go get it. And if you don't get it on the first shot, you try again. And again. And again... It's just like any other endeavor. For every boxing champion there are a million men with a brand new pair of boxing gloves and an unused bag sitting in the garage-they never failed at boxing; they just chose to stop trying when they saw how hard it was to get up in the morning and move your arms (and that's just the START of what it takes to succeed at a sport like boxing). Most People "Quit" At Everything They Try to Do The truth about excellence is that it is rewarded to those who reach for it. Then everyone else sits back and shakes their head, wondering why some get all the "talent" and are so "lucky." Cry me a river. Keep feeling sorry for yourself. Because until you take it upon yourself to make a change-by suffering the effort first rather than digging up some magic bullet-feeling sorry for yourself is your only escape FROM yourself. It's an excuse. I watched a video on a marketing forum yesterday where a man talked about how so many people are afraid to even TRY to start a business because "the failure rate is so high." The truth of the matter is, he points out, that most people "quit" before they ever "fail". Think back to the last person you know who wanted something or wanted to change themselves in some way and actually followed through with that. Can you think of anybody? You know what, I don't think you can. And this is why: Because it is so RARE. It's time to DECIDE what kind of man you want to be-and go out there and do it. I got that same email I agree with all of it, same thing I've been saying here for a while.
KungFuJoe Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I completely agree. If it wasn't for this attitude I would have quit doing coke a long time ago. But I stuck with it, even though all my friends, my parents, etc...said I should quit. Those times I od'd...I could have quit. But I'm no quitter. And today, I am a full fledged addict. And proud of it!
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