blue_jay_bird Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Is it just me or does NC just get harder with time, especially if you break it. I met with my ex, yesterday.It had to be done. So im NC day one and yes it's feel's even harder then it ever felt before. I always thought NC was easy, then i broke it, and of course i perceived "breadcrumb". Has the passage of time for you made NC easier or harder? I feel like if i don't chance him, i'll feel rejected and i'll just slip away.
MrGray Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 NC scares me in certain situations... The one im in right now , im afraid if i NC that they will enjoy it too much , forget me and move on. Which i exactly what i dont want to happen. Although last time i NC'd they came running back !!!
geegirl Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 (edited) NC gets worse before it gets any better. It took me a few months to let it sink in. It will be uncomfortable. It will make you go nuts. One minute you'll be determined and the next you'll be a puddle on the floor. But with time, those feelings will be few and far between. This is when you begin to detach from your emotions and your brain is starting to take over and drive you forward. For those that say, "if I NC then they will forget me and let me slip away." My response -- if someone wants you they won't forget you. If they let you slip away it is because you are not that significant/important to them to want to hold on to. It's harsh but it is the truth and logically you know this. You are either memorable or forgettable. In any case, if they let you slip away, that should be an even stronger driving force for you to move forward. Also, when you NC, dumpers come back not because they want to reconcile, and if they do, you have to be sure that their actions are significant in proving their need. Most times they come back after a period of NC because of curiosity, ego-boost, attention, boredom, sex, etc. In essence, don't fall for breadcrumbs and don't magnify their returning as an indication that they're doing it for all the right reasons. ps: NC gets harder when you keep breaking it because you keep reopening the wound. Picking at the scab. Ripping off that bandaid over and over again. Only way is to not touch it and let the wound heal. Hope that analogy helps. Edited September 13, 2012 by geegirl
Phanpooh Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 That up to how Nc mean for u. If u wanna move on, nc is worst to better. If u want to get back, nc will show how much important u r. If u want to boots ur passion, nc help u find sth more interesting. For me, nc cause she dun want me and me either.
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