Bettyxx Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Should I give up on him? I like this guy. He is in a circle of mutual friends and I know he is single. We have talked a few times. Last week my best friend told him I liked him and apparently he said he was flattered and kept grinning. Last night I saw him as I was out with a group of friends at a dance. He asked me to dance once and asked more questions about myself and even stopped dancing to listen to what I was saying. But he only asked me that one time. And he didn't come over and talk to me later when we were all sitting together. My friends think if he liked me back he would be chasing after me but I don't know!! I really like him but should I just try and get over it?? My best friend says men will always chase you if they like you but I'm not sure it's that cut and dried. Men always chase after her but never me!!
oldskl Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 So he asked you to dance, and what!? Did you? He heard you liked him, then he made for some moves (literally via the dancefloor by the sounds of it). He knows you like him. You clearly like him. That dance thing should have happened and there should have been maybe some chemistry, flirting whatnot. If you guys danced and there was no chemistry, maybe thats why he didn't talk afterwards. That was a golden opportunity, he approached you after knowing. Maybe you didn't show your interest high enough, so he backed off. Maybe you ask him to dance next time, its the 21st Century - chivalry aside, guys shouldn't do all the work in this day and age.
Author Bettyxx Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 There was a lot of eye contact and smiling during the dance as well as us both asking questions about each other. I have always believed that it is not up to the man to always chase but my girlfriends always believe differently and they are the ones that get men chasing!! Oh and I an not the ugly one of the group btw!! I'm a model ;(
spiderowl Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 It's hard to tell what he might be thinking, following your description. The fact that he's not chasing you straight off might not be a bad thing. I've read quite a lot of forums in my time and one thing that stands out is how careful guys will be when they find a girl they really like. They suddenly decide to be polite and respectful and to take it slowly because they are worried about scaring her off. If this guy did like you, he might try to set up a meeting between the two of you so he can talk to you alone. The dance floor isn't the best place to get to know someone.
Titanwolf Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 (edited) Forget about your friends for a moment, they're being small minded in this aspect and that advice will work against you if you heed it. If you want something badly enough, you have to go out there and take it. If you're content with thinking "what if", by all means, follow the herd. If it were me, I would make contact and find a roundabout way of creating a "date-like" scenario at least. At most, I would get his number, call him and invite him to "chill" some time, telling him straight that I would like to get to know him better. He could be the potential love of your life, why would you allow your friends to sabotage that? Edited September 15, 2012 by Titanwolf
Author Bettyxx Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 Thank you both....it's good to get another opinion as its hard not to take what those around you are saying to heart! Maybe next time I see him I'll ask him if he is coming to the pub/out for food with the rest of us??
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