KungFuJoe Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I feel like this gets overlooked a lot when it comes to trying to attract the opposite sex...much more so for men than women. I know, personally, the concept of fashion was as foreign to me as marine biology up until pretty recently. I used to think, as a guy, to care about how you are dressed was "gay" or "feminine" and I would try to "keep it real" by not worrying about colors or where I bought my clothes from. Turns out, I was keeping it real all right...real shabby. Also of major importance is making sure your clothes fit. You can buy the most expensive suit in the world, but if it doesn't fit JUST RIGHT, you're gonna look like a kid wearing your dad's suit. Unless you are one of those lucky ones where factory clothes fit you right off the rack, you best find a good tailor nearby. I'm lucky that I have one close to me that is real good. 7 bucks for shirts and 5-15 for pants depending one what you do. I found out that almost ALL my shirts don't fit me right. It's impossible to find store bought clothes that fit me (6'2", 195lbs)...shirts that are long enough are always much too wide. I was about to give away a bunch of shirts until I decided to try a tailor. A few days and about 100 dollars later...it was like I just got a brand new wardrobe. Difference is night and day. I used to HATE shopping for clothes because nothing ever fit right. But now I love my tall frame and slender midsection because I can wear tapered, slim fit shirts and, if I may say so, they look pretty good on me. Anyways...maybe most of you already realized this...but it was something new for me and I feel like I've just tripped over a gold mine. 2
yongyong Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 the typical American clothes are made too boxy. (well you know why) I want to show off the curve (not those 'curves' from fat women) since that's how natural healthy body is supposed to look like. I have a shoulder for L. But for waistline, I can wear S. I usually end up getting medium which is tight for my shoulder and just ok with my waistline since it's a hassle to tailor everything I buy. at 6'2" and almost 200lbs, I would go for 38R jacket because 40 R is too boxy at the waist.
ThaWholigan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I have the same problem, clothes struggle to fit me, especially trousers/jeans. My ass is too muscular . I need a tailor myself, but I can't afford one yet . But yes, fashion is actually one way to attract a lot of women - depending on your natural expression plus a few fashion basics, you can attract attention from the demographic of women you like most.
mesmerized Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I have the same problem, clothes struggle to fit me, especially trousers/jeans. My ass is too muscular . I need a tailor myself, but I can't afford one yet . But yes, fashion is actually one way to attract a lot of women - depending on your natural expression plus a few fashion basics, you can attract attention from the demographic of women you like most. Big muscular ass? Yum! Fashion is also huge to attract men. Even if a woman is not too pretty, her being fashionable will make her seem hot to a lot of men. 1
TaraMaiden Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I'll tell you what I believe has messed things up in peoples' minds - Children - dressed as adults. You could take most of the clothes a 7-year-old girl wears nowadays, and enlarge them, and they'd look ok on a 17-year-old. Shoot, they even sell padded bikinis and bras for them, and girls that young now wear make up (blusher, lip gloss...) Talk about blurred boundaries - I was in bobby-sox and dresses with petticoats until I was 14....!! Does anybody else feel remotely uncomfortable with the way we project and inflict adulthood onto young girls, nowadays? 2
ThaWholigan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I'll tell you what I believe has messed things up in peoples' minds - Children - dressed as adults. You could take most of the clothes a 7-year-old girl wears nowadays, and enlarge them, and they'd look ok on a 17-year-old. Shoot, they even sell padded bikinis and bras for them, and girls that young now wear make up (blusher, lip gloss...) Talk about blurred boundaries - I was in bobby-sox and dresses with petticoats until I was 14....!! Does anybody else feel remotely uncomfortable with the way we project and inflict adulthood onto young girls, nowadays? Yes. I was one of the first people to point this out to people, because I didn't like the idea either. Sometimes I think we need to let children just be children - we do force adulthood upon them too early - but that's for another thread. 1
kaylan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I have the same problem, clothes struggle to fit me, especially trousers/jeans. My ass is too muscular . I need a tailor myself, but I can't afford one yet . But yes, fashion is actually one way to attract a lot of women - depending on your natural expression plus a few fashion basics, you can attract attention from the demographic of women you like most. Ive always had a bit of a round ass. Hell Ive had a girl or two tell me they were jealous of my butt haha. And going to the gym has only made it worse, since I do squats and use the leg press machine. Im gonna have to buy new pants soon...which kinda pisses me off because I like my clothes....but oh wells.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I feel like this gets overlooked a lot when it comes to trying to attract the opposite sex...much more so for men than women. I know, personally, the concept of fashion was as foreign to me as marine biology up until pretty recently. I used to think, as a guy, to care about how you are dressed was "gay" or "feminine" and I would try to "keep it real" by not worrying about colors or where I bought my clothes from. Turns out, I was keeping it real all right...real shabby. Also of major importance is making sure your clothes fit. You can buy the most expensive suit in the world, but if it doesn't fit JUST RIGHT, you're gonna look like a kid wearing your dad's suit. Unless you are one of those lucky ones where factory clothes fit you right off the rack, you best find a good tailor nearby. I'm lucky that I have one close to me that is real good. 7 bucks for shirts and 5-15 for pants depending one what you do. I found out that almost ALL my shirts don't fit me right. It's impossible to find store bought clothes that fit me (6'2", 195lbs)...shirts that are long enough are always much too wide. I was about to give away a bunch of shirts until I decided to try a tailor. A few days and about 100 dollars later...it was like I just got a brand new wardrobe. Difference is night and day. I used to HATE shopping for clothes because nothing ever fit right. But now I love my tall frame and slender midsection because I can wear tapered, slim fit shirts and, if I may say so, they look pretty good on me. Anyways...maybe most of you already realized this...but it was something new for me and I feel like I've just tripped over a gold mine. I definitely think fashion is very important. I wouldn't even be remotely interested in talking with a guy who does not take care of their looks/how they dress, to a reasonable degree. I don't expect men to spend 2 hours in front of a mirror, but he should at the very least be "presentable". Combed hair, properly shaved, etc. And not looking like he just got outta bed in his PJ's or put on some poor-fitting pair of pants in a hurry.. I guess you can call me picky -- but I don't even like men who wear jeans and t-shirt. Jeans are fine, but I prefer it when it's coupled with "dress shirts". I guess for some men that's too much to ask for/ high maintenance, but that's what "does it" for me. To each their own, I guess.
mesmerized Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Yes. I was one of the first people to point this out to people, because I didn't like the idea either. Sometimes I think we need to let children just be children - we do force adulthood upon them too early - but that's for another thread. When I was a kid I didn't give a damn how I looked just played all day. I feel horrible for little girls nowadays, they're gonna be some screwd up adults. 2
irc333 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Sounds like I am repeating myself, but....I've seen rather fashionably dressed women out with their boyfriend who is just wearing just jeans and a T-shirt. I've noticed how some women who complain about their boyfriends' fashion sense...but....he snagged her somehow, right?LOL Otherwise, she wouldn't date him. I definitely think fashion is very important. I wouldn't even be remotely interested in talking with a guy who does not take care of their looks/how they dress, to a reasonable degree. I don't expect men to spend 2 hours in front of a mirror, but he should at the very least be "presentable". Combed hair, properly shaved, etc. And not looking like he just got outta bed in his PJ's or put on some poor-fitting pair of pants in a hurry.. I guess you can call me picky -- but I don't even like men who wear jeans and t-shirt. Jeans are fine, but I prefer it when it's coupled with "dress shirts". I guess for some men that's too much to ask for/ high maintenance, but that's what "does it" for me. To each their own, I guess.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Sounds like I am repeating myself, but....I've seen rather fashionably dressed women out with their boyfriend who is just wearing just jeans and a T-shirt. I've noticed how some women who complain about their boyfriends' fashion sense...but....he snagged her somehow, right?LOL Otherwise, she wouldn't date him. Well, yeah. To each their own. Everyone's got a different sense of fashion... I've seen guys in pj's with gf's.. so what. Doesn't mean I'd date him myself. Chances are, most women wouldn't either.
mesmerized Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Sounds like I am repeating myself, but....I've seen rather fashionably dressed women out with their boyfriend who is just wearing just jeans and a T-shirt. I've noticed how some women who complain about their boyfriends' fashion sense...but....he snagged her somehow, right?LOL Otherwise, she wouldn't date him. Maybe she didn't have any better option. 1
kaylan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 ^Hopefully for him she doesnt fall for a guy who dresses like Barney from How I Met Your Mother. Dude is always wearing a nice suit. 1
Leigh 87 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Fashion is extremely important. To know who you are, and be able to express who you with confidence, is key. And makes life so much more enjoyable, than simply throwing clothes on every morning, and picking up your bag as you leave for work/school.... With no consideration to how the colours and look of it all makes you feel. Every single thing I carry and wear are things I LOVE: I loove everything about all my bags and clothes. They are 100% ME, and what I am dying to wear at that particular time, based on my mood. It makes me go from an average/cute girl ( that has a great body but an average face), to a girl that can attract good looking guys. Seriously; If I wore frumpy, ugly clothes, with no conviction, and that did not flatter my figure, I would not attract the amount and wuality of men that I do. It aint because I am conventionally pretty, that I attract a lot of men. Put it that way....
TaraMaiden Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Sounds like I am repeating myself, but....I've seen rather fashionably dressed women out with their boyfriend who is just wearing just jeans and a T-shirt. I've noticed how some women who complain about their boyfriends' fashion sense...but....he snagged her somehow, right?LOL Otherwise, she wouldn't date him. That's not fair - in fact, it hacks me off... The way people meet sometimes means you don't get an immediately accurate impression of the person straight off... I met my H. on a camp-site, height of summer holiday season - everyone was wandering around in light summer gear....shorts, swimwear, sandals... very casual... I think a lady has a right to expect that if her BF is taking her out to dinner, if she makes an effort to look nice, it wouldn't be too much to ask that he do the same... Men are intrinsically lazy when it comes to making an effort to look the part.
kaylan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 That's not fair - in fact, it hacks me off... The way people meet sometimes means you don't get an immediately accurate impression of the person straight off... I met my H. on a camp-site, height of summer holiday season - everyone was wandering around in light summer gear....shorts, swimwear, sandals... very casual... I think a lady has a right to expect that if her BF is taking her out to dinner, if she makes an effort to look nice, it wouldn't be too much to ask that he do the same... Men are intrinsically lazy when it comes to making an effort to look the part. Not me...I dress to impress...always;) Hell...I even match my undies to my outfit sometimes...on those nights where I know Ill be getting action later. Dunno if a girl would notice that detail tho haha
ThaWholigan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Not me...I dress to impress...always;) Hell...I even match my undies to my outfit sometimes...on those nights where I know Ill be getting action later. Dunno if a girl would notice that detail tho haha They do notice 1
SeattleBabe Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Not me...I dress to impress...always;) Hell...I even match my undies to my outfit sometimes...on those nights where I know Ill be getting action later. Well, we are totally the same on this part 1
TaraMaiden Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 They DO notice - precisely because it IS so unusual...
kaylan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Im an unusual boy, at least by American standards. Im sure Id fit in more in Europe. =D
TaraMaiden Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Actually, you're unusual by UK standards too... though I'm sure you'd blend in beautifully (sartorially speaking) with Italian culture....
kaylan Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Tbh, whenever I think of Europe, I never really think of the UK =P 2
TaraMaiden Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I don't think many Brits do either!! 2
Author KungFuJoe Posted September 13, 2012 Author Posted September 13, 2012 I have the same problem, clothes struggle to fit me, especially trousers/jeans. My ass is too muscular . I need a tailor myself, but I can't afford one yet . But yes, fashion is actually one way to attract a lot of women - depending on your natural expression plus a few fashion basics, you can attract attention from the demographic of women you like most. How much is tailoring where you're at? I mentioned in my op that my tailor only charges 7 bucks a shirt...and we're talking taking in the sides, sleeves, and sometimes shoulders (combine the fact that all my clothes were already oversized plus I lost about twenty pounds in the last month or so). Seriously I have some shirts that cost me 20 bucks and they look like designer clothes after tailoring. Do want to add that pinterest is a good place for fashion tips. I know it's mostly expensive suits and "model wear" that isn't something you'd wear everyday (or ever) but it gives a great idea on style and colors. Even simple google searches like, how to buy a dress shirt, how to tuck in your shirt (yes, there is an art to this!), how to roll a sleeve cuff, etc, etc that you just take for granted...can help a lot.
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