sydney22 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Hello, any advice or insights about my story would be greatly appreciated... I'm interested in a Sikh guy I work with (we are in Australia). He's in his early 30's and he's very smart, successful, funny and confident. I've been lead to believe he's never been with a woman before, this is believable and not a problem for me. He's quite conservative and traditional but also westernised - he drinks alcohol (quite a lot!), doesn't wear a turban and has lived away from India for over ten years. We've occasionally been on our own a few times but I can tell he's more at ease in group male situations. He's taken a long time to warm to me, he was polite and friendly but distant for a long time, we're now friends and knows I like him (from office gossip) and is more and more attentive but still at a slow pace. He's paid me lovely compliments about my looks and told me that I have admirers in our office (I know that it's true and I tell him it makes me uncomfortable) and from what I've been told the interest / attraction to him is now mutual. Sometimes he shows it and then he pulls back a little but I think this is usually connected to work distractions. And on the odd occasion we've been out for drinks or lunch I haven't been allowed to pay for anything (and I know with him that this rule doesn't apply to all women). Now my questions: If he hasn't been married by 33 does this mean it's likely that he's now free of the family pressure to marry? He has a younger brother who is married and lives in India. Should I be demure and let him take the lead or should I take the lead? He's so sure of himself and is always the one in control but with no experience with women it's hard to tell. I understand that divorce is not an option in his culture, I'm serious about him so I'd like to know how I could best convey this to someone with his background and beliefs. Thank you for reading my story!
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