how much time is too much time when a girl needs to decide if she likes the guy?

[Hopeful30]

sometimes me or my friends will date a guy, and we arent sure if we really like him or want more

 

but i know that after a certain number of dates, a guy will think that you are really into him because you are still seeing him, when really i am still deciding if i like him or not

 

how long is too long until the guy starts thinkings its more?

 

from a guys perspective, what maximum # of dates would you accept for a girl to make a decision?

 

sometimes i might date a guy or see him for about a month because i still might grow to like him, but after that much time he is surprised when i say i am not interested, so now i know that i need to know sooner - or make a decision sooner.

 

Guys, what time frame is good?

 

thanks!

[SJC2008]

I'm posting from a stance that sex is not in the equation. I'd say by the 3rd date you should know if you'd like to continue to date him. You don't have to have "feelings" for him but if you have no romantic interest whatsoever by the 3rd date then you should cut your losses. I'd say if you're 4 dates in and up, and not interested, you're treading into leading him/her on territory.

[SJC2008]

This is a very good topic IMO. To add to what I said, and the fact that a somewhat similar topic posted by me was turned into a nobody owes you crap unless you're exclusive bluggeoning lol. I'd say that slow/traditional dating would be the best for you. People hop into the sack in 3-5 dates and JUMP into relationships (they're adults I'm not judging) and wonder what happend when the guy disappears, and sometimes the girl. I had 3 dates with a woman I was crushing on bad and I didn't feel like she led me on at all, the thought never crossed my mind. Mabye after 5 or 6 dates I would of felt that way. And that's when the nobody owes you antything argument kicks in lol.

Edited September 13, 2012 by SJC2008
edit