jrosie Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Hey all I have a few questions. I've posted here before about a loser I was dating, and I'm hoping this new guy I found isn't the same carbon copy of the last. You helped before, so I'm hoping you can help again. So he's 29 and I'm 24 soon to be 25 in October. He seems like a great guy, takes me out on really nice dates, dinner, lunch, movies, he even wants to take me to a halloween extravaganza in the area. Saturday we're supposed to take our dogs to a dog park together. Now here's where my issues come in...I feel like he's starting to lose a bit of interest. Kinda getting too cozy too quick? He's spent the night twice, one time because it was 2am, and he had school at 6am, and I live closer to his school than he does. The other time he came over to make me dinner after I had foot surgery and again, 2am rolled around and we cuddled in bed next to each other. Each time, no sex. But now that I feel like he's starting to lose interest, I feel like that's all thats left to do...any idea how I can keep him hooked without having sex with him just yet? When is the appropriate time to have sex? I'm really bad at this and I want this to last. I usually just have sex with a guy really quick, and I feel like that's why I don't have quality relationships. Help!! I really like this one!!!
ja123 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 This is just a gues ... maybe he's under pressure because school has just started, and he might lack money, too. If he's really busy because he's got a heavy class schedule, then he might just be tired and stressed. If he's waiting for a student loan, or he's tight on cash right now, then he might be backing off a bit because he feels badly that he doesn't have the money to take you out. Why don't you invite him to your place, cook him a meal or you can buy a pizza for the two of you, and watch a DVD? It's something simple, he doesn't have to perform and can relax ... just a chill, laid-back evening together with maybe a bottle of wine.
Author jrosie Posted September 13, 2012 Author Posted September 13, 2012 I know he's extremely busy, not only does he go to school from 6-230, sometimes longer because he's going for his certification to be a mechanic, depending on the job he can be there till he has to go to work, which is 5-12am. I have no problem with his schedule. I like it because he's not always up my butt, he's doing something to better his future and that's a real turn on for me. Just I feel like we hit a stand still. I really would like to take things slow, maybe wait 3 months to have sex...which is unheard of for me. I'm pretty sure he knows he can come by whenever he wants and just hang out. No pressure to buy me lavish gifts or take me to the most expensive restaurants. That's more of his idea. But I don't want him to lose interest because when he stays over we don't have sex...more of what I'm asking is...how can I continue to keep him interested without sex?
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