blue_jay_bird Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 (edited) My ex, seems to want to keep me around. He asked if in a couple months we could talk about. I said yes, i now regret it. I feel like if i said no i'm rejecting him, and he will think i don't want him/or im over him. I guess i could say, " You know how i feel about you, it's to painful to have you popping in and out of my life." Edited September 13, 2012 by blue_jay_bird
sweetheart5381 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 My ex, seems to want to keep me around. He asked if in a couple months we could talk about. I said yes, i now regret it. I feel like if i said no i'm rejecting him, and he will think i don't want him/or im over him. I guess i could say, " You know how i feel about you, it's to painful to have you popping in and out of my life." Do yourself a favour and stop thinking about how he feels... think about how you feel for a few moments. Step out of the picture if you can and give yourself your own advice. And then take it
Regrets58 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Hi Blue Jay,had 4 months of "being kept around". Can't advise you strongly enough not to go there,it will mess badly with your mind. Hard as it seems,their feelings are not your concern. By all means explain why you have to go NC. I had to do spell it out very plainly and it worked.
Crila16 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Unfortunately when the heart is involved, that person doesn't listen well to the advice of people who can see the forest through the trees. Because I'm on the outside and have been in a similar situation. I'll tell you what you can say which will make you proud of yourself months from now. You're so in love, that you're afraid you'll chase him away. Well...he's gone. There is nothing you could say or do that will chase him away or make him come back. You now have to sound strong to him. I'm confused why you're scared to reject him, when he, in fact, has rejected you and doesn't seem to care. He rejected you and you're still holding on...which tells you that if you reject him right back, it will give you power and benefit you more. It will also shock him. I'd say. "You wanted to end it, it's over. I don't know how I'll feel in a few months or if I'll have moved on with someone new, so if I want to hear from you, I'll let you know." Take back the power. It will make you feel in control and it will make him realize...wow...she's stronger than I thought. Why isn't she a mess over me.?
LostGirl11 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 My ex, seems to want to keep me around. He asked if in a couple months we could talk about. I said yes, i now regret it. I feel like if i said no i'm rejecting him, and he will think i don't want him/or im over him. I guess i could say, " You know how i feel about you, it's to painful to have you popping in and out of my life." You only posted yesterday about how he can't love you...
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