Out of her Shell Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 I have been happily married for over 20 years and have been overweight since the birth of my first child (16 yrs. ago). I have been steadily losing weight for the last year and every man at work has noticed. My husband has also noticed and has become even more attentive than ususal. I like all of the attention that I am getting. There is a man at work who is 20 years younger than me who is very attentive to me. He has done everything but proposition me. He is a very large man in all areas. My husband is about average to small in that area. His equipment does not work like it used to. He was once very good! He also knows about my friend at work, and has told me that he fears the worst and just don't keep any secrets from him, that he will have to live with whatever happens. I want the big man inside of me so bad it is all I can think of. I have never done anything like this before, and now it is on my doorstep. I'm going to do what I'm going to do but I would like any thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
bryanp Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 Hello, This is just a thought but how would you feel if your husband wanted to do to you what you want to do to him? Your husband is a man who loved you for over 20 years and loved you when you were overweight. You lose some weight and wish to screw another man. How would you feel if your husband decided after you screwed this guy that he does not wish to be with you? This is not how you treat a man who has loved you for over 20 years by totally humiliating and disrespecting him. If your husband decides to stay with you I am sure he will be thinking of payback to you with someone else. The tone of your letter indicates that you could care less about the pain you are willing to inflict on a husband and a happy marriage of over 20 years. What do you think that says about you? Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I have been happily married for over 20 years That should be what you think about instead of someone else. My husband has also noticed and has become even more attentive than ususal. I like all of the attention that I am getting. So, then no matter how nice he is to you is still is okay with you to hurt him? I guess nice guys finish last? I'm going to do what I'm going to do but I would like any thoughts. Have you made up your mind then? Why not let your husband use a dildo on you? I would do that instead. Hello, This is just a thought but how would you feel if your husband wanted to do to you what you want to do to him? Your husband is a man who loved you for over 20 years and loved you when you were overweight. You lose some weight and wish to screw another man. How would you feel if your husband decided after you screwed this guy that he does not wish to be with you? This is not how you treat a man who has loved you for over 20 years by totally humiliating and disrespecting him. If your husband decides to stay with you I am sure he will be thinking of payback to you with someone else. The tone of your letter indicates that you could care less about the pain you are willing to inflict on a husband and a happy marriage of over 20 years. What do you think that says about you? I totally agree with this. Someone gives you 20 years of your life and you're willing to throw it all away for a bigger d**k? Not fair at all Link to post Share on other sites
havNfun Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 from your husbands (sorta accepting) reaction, I think he's perhaps okay with the concept (maybe even a fantasy of his too?) Twenty years is a long time, and your husband can't compete with a fantasy - I think you should probably give it a shot - before you are too old to experience those spine curling, goose bump creating, vibes in one other context. I feel you should be straight forward to your husbands with your fantasy and intentions, and my guess is he'll support it. Link to post Share on other sites
Grinning Maniac Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 If you're going to do this anyway, why the hell are you asking for thoughts? You're not going to listen to them, so why exactly should we waste the energy talking to you? Supermom is right on the money. You're willing to hurt your husband of 20 years, even though you admit he's been good to you...just because this guy has a big dick. Right. Is something wrong with you, lady? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Well, if I were that husband, I'd be miserable to think that I'd been stupid enough to marry someone who would value a large penis over me, my loyalty and faithfulness, and twenty years of marriage The poor, poor man. Why not, if you need something massive up you, get a great big dildo? Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Nobody seems to have asked this, so I'll have a go: how do you know this 20-years-younger-than-you stud muffin has such a huge c*ck? Just curious. Moving on... your husband feels inadequate, and figures that he has to accept that you're going to f*ck around on him. He's not giving you permission because he wants to... it's because he feels he has no other choice, because you're going to f*ck around on him anyway. He's thrashing about, willing to give you whatever you want if only you won't leave him. That's really great about young Mr. Wonderful with the 12-inch dick. But that's fantasy. The fact is, you're married and you have a responsibility to work on your relationship with your husband before running off to enjoy your selfish little fantasy. I'm with the other posters... go buy the Ron Jeremy model dildo and knock yourself out. Or, get your husband to use it on you. In 20 years, Mr. Wonderc*ck won't be able to get it up at will either. Please, work on your marriage first, which you admit is wonderful except for the issue of dick size. Of all the shallow, selfish reasons for wanting to cheat.... this takes the cake. Link to post Share on other sites
Grinning Maniac Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Yeah, it really does beat all, doesn't it? I thought that kind of thing only existed in the lame plotlines of pornos. I guess art does imitate life after all... Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Out of her Shell: Well then maybe your husband should find some young hot chick who has a nice tight snatch so he could experience something other than you? How does it feel now? Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 for some reason or another I really get a good chuckle from skanky posts...maybe because they're so unrefined and backwoods-ish. Troglodytic posts....gotta love em. I couldn't help but to chuckle . It's fascinating! Link to post Share on other sites
DazednConfused Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 How nice for you. Your husband has stayed with a for 20 years. You found some miracle pill and lost some of the weight, and now you wanna go jump a stump at the first opportunity??!! Grow the hell up. Link to post Share on other sites
VivianLee Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 You must be very naive about sex.....because most people know that it's not the size of either person's "equipment" but what they can do with it or if they can't use their "equipment" there are so many other options that really are the foreplay we women desire so much in the first place.....you need to jump your hubby's bones for staying with you when you were overweight. It had to be a challenge to him to think of you as attractive sometimes....you have a keeper.....leave "young overhung" alone.... Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 So your husband loved you for 20 years through fat and thin and he's being more and more attentive to you. Yay! So you are going to reward him by going for a "large" guy at work. Man, what is this world coming to. If your husband were on this site I would tell him to leave you and find a good woman. Why don't you buy your husband some viagra? Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 It's true though how does she know his c*ck is sooo big huh? Unless she already did something and if she did and she's reading oour wonderful posts shes feeling pretty crunchy right about now! Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I can see what's going to happen. She'll still have sex with him, and then about a month later come back here crying saying 'I did an awful thing, should I tell my husband?' How many times have we heard that before? Link to post Share on other sites
Grinning Maniac Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I won't even bother replying to her if she does. She should probably go post on "The Other Woman" forums . Damn, I'm never getting married after being on this forum for a few months. It's just not worth it. Everyone here has said it all. The guy stays with her and loves her even when she's a , but now that she's lost some weight, she feels she's somehow entitled to boinking one of her co-workers because he has a bigger dick(yeah...how DO you know that? Yuck...)? That's just sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrwin2004 Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I can't believe you cannot control your urges. You are being tempted. I think people are raised in a society now , where divorce is normal. Maybe that's the reason why everybody cheats. Im young guy but I never cheat. If I meet somebody that I find attractive and have a bond with, ill evaulate the relationship im in, and if I'm not happy, then I will tell that person I want to end the relationship. Then you face the consequences of ending something for an unkown relationship. I would never want to be with someone who cheats and is weak. Link to post Share on other sites
VivianLee Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Damn, I'm never getting married after being on this forum for a few months. It's just not worth it. NOOOOO, don't let this forum turn you against marriage!! Marriage is a good thing, don't base your thoughts of it on a forum!!! This forum has people from all over the world on it searching for answers to their problems....you talking about thousands of people in a world of MILLIONS!! That's a small percentage of marriage trouble! Link to post Share on other sites
Mrwin2004 Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Im on the board to try to talk some sense into people, and help a few others. And no I would never cheat on somebody. These people knew full well what they were doing, it's a horrible betrayal. They knew it carried heavy consquences, yet they did it anyways. I would never do such a thing. Link to post Share on other sites
She's Come Undone Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Actually, I think we've turned it into an intellectual convo, but that could just be me. Of course I would pick the honest woman, uh, if I were a man. But how can you guarantee that your "honest" woman would never have an immoral lapse of judgement? What do you say to the person who was so sure she knew what she was getting in her man, only to have him turn into "a pathetic, cheating, beast who would lie to your face.?" Was that person wrong for picking him? How is she to know? Link to post Share on other sites
Mrwin2004 Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 No, she's not wrong for picking him, but if she found out that her husband did have a lapse in judgement, then she should divorce him and move on. He's has a weak character and dosen't deserve to be with her. She should not forgive him, he's the one who broke the commitment . Let somebody else do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Grinning Maniac Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 @Undone: Actually, YOU have just turned it into an intellectual discussion. Hurrah. Good point. A "decent" woman could one day let a bunch of your drinking buddies gangbang her if she's pissed off at your or something. You don't know lol. Scary. But I suppose you pay your money, you take your chances eh? It still sucks that after 20 years of marriage, this lady's husband is going to get betrayed because she found someone with a bigger dick. That's a pretty ****ed up reason if you think about it. Usually women come up with emotional reasons to cheat, like "he's my SOULMATE!!!" or "I'm not IN LOVE with you anymore". You may be pissed off and disagree, but it's at least within the realm of sanity. Link to post Share on other sites
She's Come Undone Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I agree! I applaud this man for having been with and standing by her when she was at an unappealing time in her life. So happy for her that she lost weight and has some well-deserved attention, but get some self-control, and realize that the only attention she needs to be surrounding herself in is that of her husband. I think we all agree that this woman's thought process is a bit off-kilter, and frankly she makes some of us want to I sure hope she posts again with a little more background/insight as to what makes this acceptable in her mind. The says it better be good!! Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Maybe it was all fake... Link to post Share on other sites
Fritz Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 How about: "Guys, I've been married for 15 years and after working out like a madman for the past two years I'm now totally ripped. The cute redhead secretary at work is constantly flirting with me and has all but jumped on me and said "giddyup stallion". My wife has never been "big upstairs", kinda a small b cup and after having two kids, shes just not as thin as she used to be and not that into sex much but she used to be a real "demon in the sack". This gal at work is totally stacked and has a hiney you could bounce a quarter off of. My wife knows about the secretary and fears the worst but says don't keep any secrets from her and she'll have to live with whatever happens." Ok, a bit harsh but come on. If things are that bad and you want a roll in the hay that much with well hung guy, divorce your husband because you obviously don't care much about his feelings. It seriously doesn't sound like he's open to an open marriage...would you be amiable to him banging some young thing thinner than you? Link to post Share on other sites
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