chise Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 Hi, My now ex-bf broke up with me last week saying that he is confused about his feelings. It was very fast and one day we were on holiday and three days later we broke up. I guess he didn't plan to leave me but the conversation turned this way as I said that his confusion was a real problem. Now he was talking to a friend and he said that he doesn't know if he made a mistake and if he will regret. He also said something like he never felt something like that for anyone before but he is not sure if he is in love. C'mon he had long relationships in the past so he should know. Now I am very confused and i cannot understand what he means. Of course i will be back with him in a second but I want also to feel secure ... Well probably he does not want us to be back What should I do now ? I really love him. Thanks for reading.
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 He's not "confused" he just doesn't want to be alone and doesn't know If it was the right thing to do because now he's feeling insecure. If you take him back you're a fool, nobody breaks up for you for no reason, and he did it for a reason and showed he wasn't in love with you by doing it. But go ahead, learn the hard way. You won't have the security, he'll be all goody good in the beginning and give you the attention, then back right up all over again and distance himself.
Author chise Posted September 12, 2012 Author Posted September 12, 2012 I do not know ... you are probably right but i do not understand how he could change from being so in love with me to being confused. I am not even saying that he would be back with me. But I took bfs back in the past and we worked it up. Maybe I am a fool
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 I do not know ... you are probably right but i do not understand how he could change from being so in love with me to being confused. I am not even saying that he would be back with me. But I took bfs back in the past and we worked it up. Maybe I am a fool Guys break up with you when they think the grass is greener on the other side but they fail in gaining the pussy that they thought they would get by being single. They're never confused, you're just trying to believe everything they're saying...I can assure you when a guy breaks up with you he's not feeling it on the same level...there's no other magical or mystifying reason. I'll even spell it out for you... they enjoy your comfort, companionship, love, sex, that you're forgiving they do not enjoy... the fact that you aren't everything they want, that they don't have the same emotions as you do, and that they don't really want to commit to you IF they don't have to. These guys aren't in love with you, the only reason they turned back is because they gave it up the struggle for a while and maybe even thought their emotions would change into what they needed to be...maybe you're a decent girl to be with, just not doing it for them emotionally. You are a fool, but you already know that...loving hard will do that to you, unfortunately you're not ever paying attention enough to how they feel and you settle for "confused" excuses just to forgive the guy because you want to be with him Look...try this, keep asking him why he's confused...like a small child just keeping why, why, why...watch him fumble around his words and not be consistent unless he spills the beans, or just stick to one rotating excuse. And then ask yourself, do you really believe it? c'mon...you know better than that. You've already figured out, you don't fall out of love all of a sudden...It's total BS. There's your answer, It's right there....oh wait but you love him right? "He also said something like he never felt something like that for anyone before but he is not sure if he is in love." That's what they all say my dear! you'll start to see a pattern with these guys If you try connecting the dots...I'm sure you're very "special"....that's why I have to leave you...makes perfect sense!
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