I miss her like crazy :'(

[MW93i]

No one replied to my other thread, too long I think.

 

I've not stopped crying for the past hour. I'm so lonely, I can't stop thinking about her. I just want everything back to when we were happy.

 

Why was I such a poor boyfriend? Everything was my fault :'(

[TopCat22]

I don't believe she doesn't care, but I do believe you need to back off her. If she wanted to be with you right now she would be. She's made a decision and by fighting it you'll only strengthen her resolve.

 

It's OK to be sad, cry away, get it out. This feeling WILL pass. You need to understand there is nothing you can say to her that will make her feel differently. She may come to the realisation that this was a mistake eventually but she may not. You have to let her have space alone to decide how she feels.

 

We all want to get back to that happy place with our ex, but you can't control her feelings. Keep posting on here it will help. Stay strong.

[MW93i]

I don't believe she doesn't care, but I do believe you need to back off her. If she wanted to be with you right now she would be. She's made a decision and by fighting it you'll only strengthen her resolve.

 

It's OK to be sad, cry away, get it out. This feeling WILL pass. You need to understand there is nothing you can say to her that will make her feel differently. She may come to the realisation that this was a mistake eventually but she may not. You have to let her have space alone to decide how she feels.

 

We all want to get back to that happy place with our ex, but you can't control her feelings. Keep posting on here it will help. Stay strong.

 

By all means, I will give her all the space she wants. I don't really want her or the relationship back I just feel there is many of things I could have done differently. I keep comparing females I see to her and I have the perfect image of her in my mind right now that litrially not one female can compare too.

 

Around an hour ago I stripped my bedding to be washed, seen her mascara on the pillow and couldn't hold back the tears it was an awful feeling. Reminded me how she used to lye there all peaceful.

 

When she spoke she told me if I was a proper boyfriend we wouldn't be in this mess. I keep going back to that in my head and it just gets me down. I tried my BEST to be a good boyfriend I know I could have defo did better in many ways but I did try.

 

Is what I'm feeling normal should I feel like I'm all to blame?

[TopCat22]

I've done the same, comparing other women to my ex. The way we feel at the moment of course they don't compare. But think on this: they aren't better or worse than your ex... they are just different.

 

You can't blame yourself. Unless you cheated or did something terrible then it wasn't solely your fault. It takes two people to build a relationship and when it falls apart it's likely both at fault. If she'd wanted to she could have done more to save it.

 

By all means look at the things you did wrong and vow to work on those things and not make those mistakes again. But you also need to look at what she did wrong. Think on that for a while and you'll see that she was at fault too.

[MW93i]

I've done the same, comparing other women to my ex. The way we feel at the moment of course they don't compare. But think on this: they aren't better or worse than your ex... they are just different.

 

You can't blame yourself. Unless you cheated or did something terrible then it wasn't solely your fault. It takes two people to build a relationship and when it falls apart it's likely both at fault. If she'd wanted to she could have done more to save it.

 

By all means look at the things you did wrong and vow to work on those things and not make those mistakes again. But you also need to look at what she did wrong. Think on that for a while and you'll see that she was at fault too.

 

That is a very good way of looking at it . Just can't get that perfect image out of my head. I'm sure it will totally dispare sometime.

 

I didn't cheat, never have never would either. She tells me how we needed to have done more things together etc. I'm a student and it's difficult to do those things. She never even put in the effort to see me nor did she tell me how things were pre-breakup.

 

I am trying to think that way and how I could do things different. This is the second time a girl has fell out of love with me. Horrible feeling. My future plan is to concentrate on University and live my life before any commitments to a woman.

[TopCat22]

Don't beat yourself up over it. I know that as a man you want to be in control, but there are things that even the most in control of us can't do anything about. A woman's feelings are one of those things.

 

Take a few days and let the grief out. When you can't cry anymore you're ready to start thinking about how to take the next step. That's the time to concentrate on you. Enjoy university, make new friends, try new sports and hobbies.

 

Falling out of love seems to happen a lot and what I'm starting to realise is that if that can happen it's not real love. Call me a romantic but real love lasts and means you will do anything for the other person. Believe that you will find it. You're young and you will find it!

[MW93i]

Don't beat yourself up over it. I know that as a man you want to be in control, but there are things that even the most in control of us can't do anything about. A woman's feelings are one of those things.

 

Take a few days and let the grief out. When you can't cry anymore you're ready to start thinking about how to take the next step. That's the time to concentrate on you. Enjoy university, make new friends, try new sports and hobbies.

 

Falling out of love seems to happen a lot and what I'm starting to realise is that if that can happen it's not real love. Call me a romantic but real love lasts and means you will do anything for the other person. Believe that you will find it. You're young and you will find it!

 

Thanks man, you made me smile .

 

Crying actually made me feel so much better. Kind of feel that I've given up on love, I know I'm still young and all but it actually is so painful breaking up and I don't feel I could trust another or love again properly unless 100%. It really does hurt that much.

 

I just need a whole lot of time and good things will hopefully happen in the future.

[Gab09]

Hey, sorry nobody replied to your other post, i'll go read it in a bit.

 

I'm sorry you're going through this terrible feeling, I too am coping with a break up.. Don't let her brainwash you into thinking that you were such a horrible boyfriend.

 

We're all different and if she couldn't cope with your life, then she wasn't the one man. You'll meet another one, an even better one.. It's just a syndrome.

 

At first, when my broke up occurred, I would always always compare her to other girls and I had her in this pedestal.. But as time passes you start pushing her little by little from it, and realize all her faults. I'm not saying just concentrate on the bad things, but don't ignore them either.

 

You should take a read at my story man, maybe it'll make you feel better. **** happens, and I still struggle with it ALOT, but keeping busy is key.

 

Best of luck and i'll subscribe to this thread to check up on your progress.

 

Give it time.

[MW93i]

Hey, sorry nobody replied to your other post, i'll go read it in a bit.

 

I'm sorry you're going through this terrible feeling, I too am coping with a break up.. Don't let her brainwash you into thinking that you were such a horrible boyfriend.

 

We're all different and if she couldn't cope with your life, then she wasn't the one man. You'll meet another one, an even better one.. It's just a syndrome.

 

At first, when my broke up occurred, I would always always compare her to other girls and I had her in this pedestal.. But as time passes you start pushing her little by little from it, and realize all her faults. I'm not saying just concentrate on the bad things, but don't ignore them either.

 

You should take a read at my story man, maybe it'll make you feel better. **** happens, and I still struggle with it ALOT, but keeping busy is key.

 

Best of luck and i'll subscribe to this thread to check up on your progress.

 

Give it time.

 

It's crazy how things change so quickly. I think she already has.. who tells someone that they werent a proper boyfriend though .

 

I honestly can't think of a fault she has right now.. which sucks. I thought she was perfect for me but I guess things change.

 

Time drags

 

Would you mind linking me to your story?

[Mr Reptile]

Believe me, you will find several wrongs with this girl.

 

I also though "everything was my fault" when my ex ended it, she painted it that way.

But it takes two to tango, maybe you aren't ment for eachother, othervise: why would it end?

 

Sit down and think of every nagging she did, every blame she put on you.

She is human, she's NOT perfect and have bad habbits and behaviours. Just like everyoneelse.

 

I was in your shoes, thought there was no wrong with my ex and I will never find a girl like her.

Boy, I was sooo wrong. I've met several other girls during these 4 months of being single and they are all great in their way!

 

Hang in there buddy, you will find flaws about this girl, and eventually these feelings will fade away, I promise.

Edited September 13, 2012 by Mr Reptile

[MW93i]

Believe me, you will find several wrongs with this girl.

 

I also though "everything was my fault" when my ex ended it, she painted it that way.

But it takes two to tango, maybe you aren't ment for eachother, othervise: why would it end?

 

Sit down and think of every nagging she did, every blame she put on you.

She is human, she's NOT perfect and have bad habbits and behaviours. Just like everyoneelse.

 

I was in your shoes, thought there was no wrong with my ex and I will never find a girl like her.

Boy, I was sooo wrong. I've met several other girls during these 4 months of being single and they are all great in their way!

 

Hang in there buddy, you will find flaws about this girl, and eventually these feelings will fade away, I promise.

 

Thanks for the reply man, I had a good sleep and I woke up feeling so much better today.

 

Yeah she defiantly has painted it that way and lead me to believe that it all was my fault but like you said it can't all be ones fault .

 

4 month seems so long.. Its only been 10 days and it's dragged like hell in ways. I just want it to be over already but I am feeling better day by day.

[Mr Reptile]

Give it time, because that is what it's gonna take.

 

But don't feel guilty and think that you destroyed it on your own, like I said, it takes two for a relationship to work.

Even if she tells you all reasons, it's just to defend herself. If she blames you for all this you should be happy to not be around her.

 

If you are gonna think of her, try to think of all the negative sides, because she got it.

I didn't see anything bad about her early after the BU either, but now when I see all of them I don't want to go back.

 

Don't think this will be over in one night, allow it to take time and keep living your life.

Exercise and keep going out with your friends, and avoid alcohol, 'cause that will only make you miss her even more.

Now after 4 months I can drink how much I want and not even have a though about calling her, but I'm more ahead then you, so take it easy before you starting to drink.

 

Never stop living your life because of ONE woman,

you are more valuable then that.

[MW93i]

Give it time, because that is what it's gonna take.

 

But don't feel guilty and think that you destroyed it on your own, like I said, it takes two for a relationship to work.

Even if she tells you all reasons, it's just to defend herself. If she blames you for all this you should be happy to not be around her.

 

If you are gonna think of her, try to think of all the negative sides, because she got it.

I didn't see anything bad about her early after the BU either, but now when I see all of them I don't want to go back.

 

Don't think this will be over in one night, allow it to take time and keep living your life.

Exercise and keep going out with your friends, and avoid alcohol, 'cause that will only make you miss her even more.

Now after 4 months I can drink how much I want and not even have a though about calling her, but I'm more ahead then you, so take it easy before you starting to drink.

 

Never stop living your life because of ONE woman,

you are more valuable then that.

 

Hopefully as time goes on I'll remember the bad thing's she did too and how those affected the relationship. I need too.

 

Alcohol well.. University Freshers is soon and a hell of a lot of alcohol will be involved but I was drunk the other night and I had 0 urge to contact her at all. I don't actually want to contact her. I don't know how I even feel 70% of the time. Its just a pain within.

 

Like right now, all my friends are busy and it's 7pm and I know for a fine fact she is out right now with her friends whilst I'm stuck in the house moping around until bed time.

[Gab09]

Hang in there bud.. It'll get easier, for me.. It's been 27 days since I last saw her.. and sometimes it gets better, sometimes it gets worse.. Difference is for me, I can tell you a thousand things that were wrong with her, but your heart will still miss her I know..

 

But just remembering all the hard times you went through does help at times.

 

For me, uff, if I even began to talk about em, I could write another book, like my first post.. haha

 

By the way, you can find my story on my signature, just click on the link.

 

It sucksss being in this position man, we can all relate, but you are not alone.. And it's important you know that.. Whenever you have an urge to talk about whatever or just want to blabber out your feelings.. Post it here and be sure you'll get a response.