xMeeshelle Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 I met him ~2 years ago and we've been dating 7 months ago. When we started we were really into each other, maybe so much that both of us missed classes just to stay with each other. We plan on meeting in summer, which is like 9 months away. It's a long distance relationship, and at the beginning our only communication was typing. A week later he convinced me to talk, and everytime I did it was so sweet. I could feel butterflies when I heard him talk, and I even cried once when he did something romantic. And well, at a time he said he didnt know how he felt because it just became a routine, but after a week he told me he still had feelings. About 2 1/2 months in our relationship we started doing skype, and we feel totally comfortable with each other now. But, I dont know. He keeps telling me he feels even more in love with me, when I dont even know what I feel. At the time it happened we were starting the comfortable-phase, but its like I rarely feel butterflies now. I feel normal when I talk to him, and I dont feel like I love or hate him, its just.. Weird. We've talked about this and he makes me realize I love him by my actions, but after the moment I'm just doubting myself on how I feel for him. I would honestly feel bad if I ever left him, since I think he's perfect for me; he always tries to spend time with me, looks for me after arguments (my pride is kind of bad, even though I've managed to put some part aside) and is in general sweet and caring. I don't want our relationship to end, but I don't know if feeling like this is normal. Approximately 5 weeks ago I felt the spark, but it's not like he does, which he says he feels it everytime I ask him about it. I don't know if it's just the distance making me doubt everything. Still, I talk and think about him all the time, but when I do it doesnt bring me any feeling. When we have disscusions, we always end up crying and most times I'm waiting for him to say something just to get a reason to talk and make up. I think I focused too much on the negatives xD. Anyways, opinions?
justwhoiam Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 I guess you're going cold on him, partly for lack of physical contact, even virtually. And partly, because of the constant arguing, that can lead to some apathy not to get too hurt. It's also a defense mechanism. He should stop the fighting (and it's good he looks for you, considering your pride) and raise some sexual interest. Not because it's not there or you didn't click, as I said most probably interest level went down because of the dynamics between the two of you. How old are you both, btw?
Author xMeeshelle Posted September 12, 2012 Author Posted September 12, 2012 I guess you're going cold on him, partly for lack of physical contact, even virtually. And partly, because of the constant arguing, that can lead to some apathy not to get too hurt. It's also a defense mechanism. He should stop the fighting (and it's good he looks for you, considering your pride) and raise some sexual interest. Not because it's not there or you didn't click, as I said most probably interest level went down because of the dynamics between the two of you. How old are you both, btw? I'm 19 and he's 16. It kind of took a while to start liking him because of his age, but he's pretty mature for his age (otherwise I don't think the relationship could work out). And thanks for your opinion . I thought so too so right now I just want to meet as soon possible, which sadly can't be in winter since he has a 2-week break. And also we are paying for the tickets 50/50 and (because of his age) he couldn't get a job so it couldn't be this summer x.x
justwhoiam Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 Well, then also add his young age to the picture, while you're 3 years older. That's something I wouldn't like personally, so I can understand your feelings going cold or having second thoughts.
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