broken-hearted

[heartache12]

I've been with my this guy for almost a year now. Over a month ago, we had a fight and i was so mad i broke up with him. I tried to reconnect our relationship for couple of weeks but he been shutting me out of his life totally and told me to move on because he already did. He will be in the country for about 3 more months to finish his BA and then he'll go back to his original country. I'm devastating. I want to make thing right. I want to be with him for the next 3 months, i don't mind if he leaves later, all i want is to be with him. BC i am lost without him. I haven't function, and focus on my education, or work. I haven't been eat or sleep since we broke up. My life is a living hell, i have this kind of pain on my chest that would never go away. I tried to talk to him, begged, threats, etc. nothing has work. I think he just want to focus put all his attentions for his classes, because he doesn't want to to fail any of them. But why shutting me out like, make my life so miserable? Is there anything i can do or try to get him have a second thought about it? Dont tell me to look for another boyfriend, and be happy. BC he told me the same thing, i couldn't do it. I dont' want to do it. I dont' want to live like this. please help me. anybody?

[yoman38]

Hello, there unfortunately there is no quick solution to your problem. pain is inevitable you're experiencing the end of a relationship and that can be very similar to dealing with someone close to you dying. It involves pain and mourning. So my best advice to you is work on accepting the fact that he is gone for good, he's not coming back, there will be no reconciliation. And allow your self to be sad and cry and slowly as time passes eventually you will being to forget, your body mind and soul will eventually stop caring.

 

this process can be sped up by working on yourself by finding ways to make yourself happy from within, outside of a relationship. And by avoiding contact with him.

 

good luck