questionlife Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 I travel a lot for work (about 9-10 months of the year, for usually 2-3 months at a time) and am wondering how to date when I am ‘on the road’? I have tried an online dating website, but wonder how many women would want to get involved with a man whom they knew was going to leave soon... I guess I am asking any women on here who would like to give me some advice on how to sell myself as someone who is ‘just in town for a short time hoping to have a hot, romantic fling’ and can’t promise anything more... Thanks
ja123 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 I guess something along the lines of "Looking for a nice companion for the 2 months I'm in town" might work. Then list some of your interests. For women in a transition period in their lives (i.e., newly single, or working to re-build their lives or career), a two month fling might be ideal. 1
Balzac Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 (edited) Guy here but can you share whether you return to same cities or not? You underestimate the power of nice dinner out, nice hotel room and no strings. Welcome to LS. Transient life does present challenges. Are you divorced or been in any LTR? Edited September 16, 2012 by Balzac Frequent flier but not getting flown
oaks Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 I travel a lot for work (about 9-10 months of the year, for usually 2-3 months at a time) and am wondering how to date when I am ‘on the road’? I have tried an online dating website, but wonder how many women would want to get involved with a man whom they knew was going to leave soon... I don't know if it "works" but I see profiles from women saying all the usual stuff and then "just in London for 2 months. Would be nice to meet people who can show me around." I have no idea if they are looking for a 'tour guide' or a holiday fling or somewhere in between.
FitChick Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 I don't know if it "works" but I see profiles from women saying all the usual stuff and then "just in London for 2 months. Would be nice to meet people who can show me around." I have no idea if they are looking for a 'tour guide' or a holiday fling or somewhere in between. I plan to do this. I don't like eating meals alone. Once I met a guy who was in the city for a business conference and I was there as a tourist. We had a nice meal, good conversation and that was it. No regrets and no expectations. Best case scenario is I meet someone and we both hit it off and the transatlantic dance begins.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 I travel a lot for work (about 9-10 months of the year, for usually 2-3 months at a time) and am wondering how to date when I am ‘on the road’? I have tried an online dating website, but wonder how many women would want to get involved with a man whom they knew was going to leave soon... I guess I am asking any women on here who would like to give me some advice on how to sell myself as someone who is ‘just in town for a short time hoping to have a hot, romantic fling’ and can’t promise anything more... Thanks I am sure you will find women who are looking for short-term flings as well. Just make sure you make that explicit. Nothing will hurt the woman more than being fooled into thinking you were up for a LDR when you really were looking for someone to alleviate the loneliness and boredom of being in a foreign place for extended periods of time.
Author questionlife Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 (edited) Wow! Thanks everyone for the feedback for some reason, I didn't get any notice that anyone had replied... Anyway, Ja123, FitChick and NoMore Jerks - I thought it would be insulting to say I am just looking for a fling, but you're right - if I am honest and just say what I am looking for (and it could just be a nice conversation over dinner, or exploring the city together - without anything expectations of anything else!) it could work, but how would I also say that I would like a romantic encounter as well I agree I don't want to lead anyone astray by promising anything I can't deliver (i.e. a LTR/LDR) but I am looking for 'sex' since I am not in a relationship, and it might lead to more (who knows I might settle down there or we could even travel together for a while...) but if I am being honest that I am only in looking for a brief fling, how do I say that includes sex, or should I just leave that to fate? Lol The reason I ask is that if I am only in town for a short time, there is not a lot of time for the usual few dates over a week or two to get to know someone who might be interested in a relationship... To cut-to-the-point, sex would have to be something she comes to the first date expecting or wanting to do as well (but not necessarily on the first date! Lol And where do you see these profiles, Oaks? Maybe I should have a look! Balzac, I'm not divorced, but have been in a few LTR's as well as one LDR (long distance relationship) for 6 months, plus an open-relationship for 8 months as well... Thanks again, everyone! Edited September 17, 2012 by questionlife Redundant sentence...
oaks Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 And where do you see these profiles, Oaks? Maybe I should have a look! Okcupid, women aged 30 and up, in London.
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