no cigar Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 Me and my ex had been done since Nov 2011 but for some odd reason continued to be together until around May when she entered into a relationship with a guy she met a long way away from here. While we were not together at the time, I had stayed with her for 2-3 weekends since January and as late as March. She met the guy back in Feb. while up to visit family and I'm assuming things kinda grew, now they are in a full fledged relationship. We have been NC May-August and I'm a little tardy with posting here, but things recently resurfaced with us texting eachother so I have been wondering without really bringing it up, if they are having issues. He's a friend of her family so it seems to me that what most likely happened is they may have been introduced at some point. They are over 1500 miles away and it boggles my mind how she would dive right into something like that in the first place. Even more so why she would even think about talking to me given that distance.
g450 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Well this is going to sound strange but some women have what is called a romantic affair. A LDR is what she might want. Its not always about sex but it is just as destructive to a marriage. My own XW had one as well but I believe it did turn into a PA in the end. No proof though. 1500 miles is not that far. In fact if her lover is married it makes sense to keep some distance and only hook up when traveling. It happens. Either way you are done. Dont dwell on it. I did and it tore me up. Leave her be and go NC. A year from now you will care less what she does and that is a healthier place to be.
Author no cigar Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 Nah, this is quite different. It's not an affair of any sorts for him. They are pretty much in an all out relationship as I'm sure they have both shown eachother off to their respective families.
n989 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Relationships with a friend of the family never works, ditto LDR. Doesn't mean you should be there for her as a back up plan when it doesn't.
Author no cigar Posted September 19, 2012 Author Posted September 19, 2012 Oh no I'm not intending at all to do that. It is quite a little odd as to why she still lets me in. Even more so weird is how she still indicates to me that she is miserable where she lives. She hates her job, has few friends, is putting on weight, etc. I figure the normal course of action is to come out on top of the world regardless of how things really are. Hell, I got my crap together and dropped 50 lbs, and just got a brand new job that I love and will take me far in my career. She dumped me, but she's still miserable and I'm slowly picking myself back up. Odd how that works.
Author no cigar Posted October 13, 2012 Author Posted October 13, 2012 So I just found out Monday that after about only 5 months of relationship time, they are engaged. A friend of mine and hers informed me and said that it really seemed way too soon. Having known her over four years, I can't honestly see this being more than a quick decision based on her being entirely miserable about her surroundings and job.
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