jayy23 Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 after being in NC for the past 68 days I haven't heard anything from my ex she hasn't tried to contact me atall but I have been holding on to the hope that she would have tried to contact me by now. It's been 6months since she finished with me after being together for nearly 5years. I'm doing alot better but still think about her everyday I still miss her. But when I think about if she did call and askd to meet up with me or something I have doubts about it like I don't have as strong feelings towards her as I did before so it would just be weird. At the same time I would like to see her to find out how it would go. I can't help but think that she Myt think I'm over her because I haven't contacted her in over 2months but then again if she wanted to talk she would contact me? Or she Myt not feel like I want her to contact me?
hardup Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 68 days! Good for you. I'm just in the beginning on my NC with my ex, although we have a child together seeing and speaking about our son is just inevitable, but I'm keeping it strictly to that! The way I see it is that you went this long with out any contact from her. To ask her to meet up now, is only going to bring you heartbreak and back to square one, if in your heart you're truly not over her. Perhaps a e-mail if its something that is really eating at you. I personally think ex's can never be friends, if you're not both 100% over each other. The one who has feelings holds onto hope, sees mixed signals when there is none there, and is more or less wasting their time, and is at a stand still in their life. My advice is to truly let her go, and continue to move on. If you're going to contact her do it via e-mail. Do not text her, or ask her to meet up right away via phone call. E-mails have less pressure to reply, so she can take her time and think about it. If she responds then you know it is because she wanted to, not because she felt pressured to. 1
Dblock10 Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 forget her. clear the air and move on man. what hardup said was pretty bang on tbh
flitzanu Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 after being in NC for the past 68 days I haven't heard anything from my ex she hasn't tried to contact me atall but I have been holding on to the hope that she would have tried to contact me by now. It's been 6months since she finished with me after being together for nearly 5years. I'm doing alot better but still think about her everyday I still miss her. But when I think about if she did call and askd to meet up with me or something I have doubts about it like I don't have as strong feelings towards her as I did before so it would just be weird. At the same time I would like to see her to find out how it would go. I can't help but think that she Myt think I'm over her because I haven't contacted her in over 2months but then again if she wanted to talk she would contact me? Or she Myt not feel like I want her to contact me? the thought you're having is wrong. no part of her is thinking "oh he must be over me because he hasnt' contacted me". that's you, trying to convince yourself into having a good reason to contact her.
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