Anastar Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 This is the longest I've gone NC throughout my BU of July 4th. So a little over 2 months and I'm definitely feeling better. I finally feel normal, though I still think about him everyday. I was unemployed but got a great job offer so 26 days ago I texted him saying that good things are happening to me and that I got a job which I'm starting at the end of September, then wished him well. He texted back asking when I'm starting, don't know why, but I answered his question. This time I've been NC for 26 days and thought I was doing well, until I looked at updating my linkedin account which I haven't used for a while, then I looked to see who's viewed my profile, because they let you do that so you can see any potential employers or recruiters reading your profile, and I see that no one but him has viewed my profile 24 times. Uggghhh...that made me upset again and triggered my urge to check my profile daily and I see that he looks at it once a day. I haven't updated it, and he knows when I'm starting work, so why is he checking it everyday? I know I shouldn't entertain myself with his activity on my profile, but its so dumb. Its just my name, no picture, no other information. I plan to update it for professional reasons after I start my new job. but why would he check everyday...its kind of weird...does he not believe I got a job? And why would he even care...he never made any attempts to justify his behavior, clearly he wasn't interested in even saying a normal goodbuy and good luck. So why this profile stalking? Thanks in advance for any comments. -A
Itsallhappeningnow Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Id probably have to know more about how the break up happened. Was it a healthy r'ship? Look, NC means NC. I think you should cut someone off completely for the very reason you described in you post. he obviously still likes you or is doing it to mess with you... It will be ok. You need o base your decisions/decision not on what he does but n what you decide is the best for you. Why doesn't he call you instead..... Sounds shady
Author Anastar Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 I guess when I discovered he reactivated his dating account I told him and he was ashamed because he wanted to be perceived as a perfect bf . What can he possibly say to me now? It would have to start with "I'm sorry" and he would have to take some responsibility so its easier to pretend that he doesn't care. Idk. I am doing NC but it was easier when I thought that I had no choice cuz he didn't make any contact but now he is showing me that he hasn't moved on but wants me to make the first move while protecting his pride-at least I Know that I will never do that...I learned that from practicing NC. Its going to be very hard to keep NC if he actually talks to me. I miss him a lot and think about him all the time, but I won't impose myself on him, love is not good without return. ,
Gab09 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 Anastar, nooo! Think about it, do you want to go back to the uncertainty that you were feeling? The one that I so much hate and dread.. but yet I'm still stuck in it? You have already moved on, you have a great job!!! A++ on that (I'm unemployed still :/).. Don't, please do it for all the broken hearts here, we want to see a fellow partner make it out of the hole, so that the rest of us can start to follow! Keep us posted and best of luck, from a broken heart to another
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