5 year relationship..over since May

[jeeptj]

Had a great relationship with what I thought was my best friend. For 5 years we had a great relationship. Back in May she decided she want to "Live her Life" and be single, since she never had that chance (she had kids right out of high school. (Not with me)

We never moved in together the entire time.

 

Our relationship was a little bit obsessive. She would freak out if I wanted to go to the bar with my friends, or play on my pool league. She would spite me and say "Well, if you go out, I am going out with my girlfriends."

 

There was a lot of jealously in our relationship.

 

Needless to say she is with this other guy now and I can't let her go. She tells me she loves me still and wants to be with me still.

 

She texts me and calls me all the time still. We used to text 100x a day. Lately she will go 4 hours without texting and I will ask why. Then she will get PO at me for questioning why she isn't texting.

 

She even told me the other day she is having lots of sex with her new guy.. Almost like she wants to hurt me. She told me her GF's are jealous of her new BF..

 

She can't pay rent, so I have been helping her with that. I feel like a complete loser and still can't let her go I even met some other girls but find myself missing her so I can't enjoy them.

 

I almost think is OCD why I can't stop texting her. I try and try to stop but give in.

[not-a-drive-by]

Uhhh....why are you helping her pay her rent? STOP IT. If you want to pour your money down the drain, at least make it worthwhile. Donate to charity the money you are using to pay her rent. They will appreciate it more than your ex. Leave her troubles with her current bf. She is not your liability anymore!

 

You make me want to smash my head into a wall.

 

You need to stop the contact. Try hour by hour, then day by day. I find crossing out the days on a calendar really helps mark your progress.

 

Think about it, if she really loves you like she says over the phone/text or whatever, she will not be trying to make you jealous now, and certainly wouldn't be with the other guy. If she loves you, she would be with you now...