cgannon Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Okay, briefly, a few years ago, my wife cheated on me. We agreed at the time to work it out and stay together. Earlier this year, for some unknown reason that she says has nothing to do with previous issues, she left me and we are now separated. I want to work things out with her, but seeing how things are going, that might not be in the cards. She keeps telling me how she wants me to go and live my life (WTF that means). Yesterday, I was chatting with an old friend from High School. It's been 25 or more years since we've seen each other. I randomly asked her to go out for coffee or something. She gave me her number. Briefly putting aside the marriage issues (I'm dealing with those elsewhere for now), it has been a VERY long time since I've done the dating thing. I don't even know if this is a "date", or if this is just people catching up. I don't know how long after getting her number I should wait in order to not sound desperate and creepy. I mean, I used to have a thing for this girl, and I might still like her, but I don't want to screw everything up. I need someone to talk me down, but the only person I know that could do that was my wife, so that might not be such a grand idea. Help would be appreciated.
Ami1uwant Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Yesterday, I was chatting with an old friend from High School. It's been 25 or more years since we've seen each other. I randomly asked her to go out for coffee or something. She gave me her number. Briefly putting aside the marriage issues (I'm dealing with those elsewhere for now), it has been a VERY long time since I've done the dating thing. I don't even know if this is a "date", or if this is just people catching up. I don't know how long after getting her number I should wait in order to not sound desperate and creepy. I mean, I used to have a thing for this girl, and I might still like her, but I don't want to screw everything up. I need someone to talk me down, but the only person I know that could do that was my wife, so that might not be such a grand idea. Help would be appreciated. I dont call this a date.....just talk to her as a friend. Also...you arent ready to date yet since you are still married.
Mrlonelyone Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Ah second chances can be good. Just play it by ear. Go without expectations and see what happens. There are plenty of stories of people getting together after years and years apart. Many of my friends from high school have done just exactly that.
runner Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Hey Cgcanon, I'm Eddie Fews, I have a rule for guys when it comes to meeting and dating women. It is best to always assume attraction when dealing with a female( you can actually read more about this in the article in my signature). That being said.. HELL YEAH this is a date, go rock out man and show her the time of her life. Don't just go out for coffee, bump the date to the ice cream shop down the street and then maybe the park on the corner. Take the lead and make things happen. The man that tackles dating with this outlook always has women in his life even if it is the tiniest bit of attraction from either of us i always assume it's a date, so i approve this message. have fun and enjoy your time together.
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