Is she trying to get my attention?

[Bluewaves188]

A little background. Sorry if this is long! My ex and I met last fall and we started hanging out and eventually we dated and it got serious. We took the relationship slow at first as their is an age difference between us. She is 12 years older than me. We dated for almost a year, while camping she came out of the blue and told me she was unhappy with herself and had this gut feeling we had lost whatever we had in the beginning. I was confused because she would tell me she loved me, missed me and I was the best boyfriend she ever had, all the time. We never fought about anything and we had a lot of fun. I thought we loved each other deeply. She has always had a this fear of being unhappy with her future partner and would run. Her parents didn't love each other and wouldn't divorce because of their faith. I didn't know about this until now and I think she is running.

 

I think she is under a lot of stress. Her work has been crazy busy. Her mom passed away 10 years ago last month. She was very close to her and had to go through therapy for years and is on medication. Her best friend moved down south for her job.

 

So I gave her space. We talked face to face twice in a matter of two weeks and she thought she was making a big mistake and wanted us to go through therapy. A week later she wanted closure and we broke things off. Said she was an idiot for breaking up with me. Said she doenst have the emotional energy to go through therapy. Still wants to be friends and do fun things. We had a camping trip planned a month out and she still wanted me to go with her. That final night we chatted like normal and watched a thunderstorm roll in. She even asked if I wanted to stay as it was getting late and I said I better go. She cried and I cried.

 

We didnt talk for a week and I got a text saying it weird not being with me. I didn't respond back. A week later she posted a status on facebook about waking up to sirens on a beautiful morning. I used to joke about the ambulances that would pass by all the time. What caught me off guard is that she never posts anything on facebook. The last time was when we started dating. She cut her friends down to the essential ones awhile back and was even talking about quitting facebook all together. I'm a photographer and she knew I check my facebook and post things all the time. I posted a status that evening about a good photo shoot. An hour later she posts about her day. Is she trying to get my attention or am I looking into this too much?

 

She doenst hangout with a lot of people. Mostly girls and she doesnt go out. Kind of a workaholic. We still have a camping trip planned and I told her we need to see each other before the trip. Any ideas on whats going on or what to do would be appreciated. I figure staying friends would be my best chance of getting back together. I know she is confsed on what she wants. SHe even told me. I just want her to be happy and really think about our relationship and if its something that she is willing to work on.

 

Thanks!

[flitzanu]

i read a lot of posts from movie celebrities and bands on facebook, and coincidentally they are right after i watch their movie or listen to them.

 

i often wonder if they are trying to get my attention.

[Crila16]

You're reading way too much into this. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you. No excuse or excuses. I don't know about you, but when I or anyone else I know wants to be with someone, they just are. No drama necessary.

 

This girl is way too much drama. She keeps you hanging on, plays head games, but yet doesn't do anything about it. DRAMA!!!!! Unecessary drama.

 

Love isn't this complicated. I like you, you like me, we get along, we spend time together and see if it grows. Oh look...it's growing. Let's get married...or oh look...it's not growing...let's break up.

 

This is an unhealthy relationship you're holding onto. It's not good for you. Let it go.