Stanza Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 oh good luck and keep us posted. if you're not already at the meeting: keep super cool control on your emotions and then go with your intuition as it progresses.
Sunslides Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Thanks for the comforting words... Little update : She emailed me to say that she was sorry that her new BF texted me from her phone and what he said was rude. (Using the F*** word more than often), she said she was unaware that he did that. This as really been a setback... *sigh* I was doing so well with NC. Back to square one. Somebody kick me!
geegirl Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Thanks for the comforting words... Little update : She emailed me to say that she was sorry that her new BF texted me from her phone and what he said was rude. (Using the F*** word more than often), she said she was unaware that he did that. This as really been a setback... *sigh* I was doing so well with NC. Back to square one. Somebody kick me! *Giving Big Swift Kick In The Butt*...now get back to NC and stay there!
Author blue_jay_bird Posted September 11, 2012 Author Posted September 11, 2012 Oh Blue Jay. Please be careful. He broke up with you for a reason. If he wanted you, he wouldn't have let you leave his life with no contact for 3.5 months. I've been here before...please be careful this isn't just a booty call, missing you, blast from the past thing. I know you want it to be more, but honestly, he doesn't or he would have contacted you. He wouldn't have let you go in the first place. Be careful he doesn't feed you pretty words, trying to get you to weaken and then get you into bed. That part of the relationship, I'm sure he's missing. Once he gets you into bed, the next day he'll be distant and will say something like "I never said I wanted to get back together." I've seen it happen too many times. See him isn't going to help you. It's going to set you back 3.5 months. I know you're excited, but in truth...I don't think there will be a reconciliation. Just more heartache. SEX are you kidding me, the only way he would have sex with me is if he knocked me out. RECONCILIATION are you kidding me, he would have to knock me out to get back together with me. The relationship is dead. It's over.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted September 12, 2012 Author Posted September 12, 2012 Well, i think it went great. Did the lame small talk. I then brought up what happened. He told me how difficult it was to break up with me. How he spent nights cry about the idea of hurting me. And yeah, i felt bad for him. I brought up how are communication was bad, that i wish he told what was going on. I told him, don't worry your find a girl. He told me that i was awesome and there's nothing wrong with me. I force out of him some of the issues he was facing. He thought i was insecure and lacked motivation. (This didn't affect me, and i didn't debate it. I don't care) I told him i was dating, and he should too. He asked if in a couple months if we could get together for coffee. I stupidly said maybe. It was odd saying good bye. I was the one, walking away, so it felt great. I felt in control. Something, i felt little of when he dumped me. I didn't make a big deal about the past, I didn't talk about the future, it all just felt odd. I just couldn't invest feeling in him, made me realized, he really did it. He broke that thing in me that made me care. I just couldn't feel that connection, it was interesting. I was kind and everything, but it was a act, in my core, i felt cold. I liked it, and hated it. I'm glad i did it. I feel like its broken, those feeling aren't there. I'm glad, i did it. I realized that when he was with me, iv completely disconnected myself from him. I'm not sure if i came off cold, cause i tried not to be. But it made me realize this relationship is over. I am just to hurt to ever get back with him. Once it's broken, its broken. 1
Author blue_jay_bird Posted September 12, 2012 Author Posted September 12, 2012 But yeah. I can see how breaking NC, has it's down sides. I couldn't sleep well, and i texted him asking if he still loved me, cause i didn't ask that. NOW, iv been waiting for a reply to my crazy text. GAh, i ended it so well, then started freaking out, wanted more answers. PLEASE reply. I'm going insane.
not-a-drive-by Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 From reading your previous post, you sounded like you were over him - indifferent to whatever he said to you. I guess you aren't as ready as you think you are. Not sure what to say, but, don't expect for a reply that says he still loves you or any text at all. Leave it as it is now, and go sleep. It will be better tomorrow once you accept that he won't be texting back. In your own words, once it's broken, it's broken. Why do you want more answers? Are you looking for an ego boost if he says he does still love you? Or hope? But then...you also said you are too hurt to ever get back with him. Leave it be.
Sunslides Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 Update again. So... She went back to him. What a mess. She sent me an email stating she is uncertain about her relationship with the new guy. So I sent back this email. (I can't text her, her looks at her phone all the time) "I don't want to do anything to disrupt your relationship. If you're happy, that's what matters." So... Back at day 1. No contact. WHY do good guys finish last?
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