deepika Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 We are into a relationship from last 7 months and we were clear on the fact that we will not get married. Once he asked me even that will he be able to be with him all through his life, that time i didn't responded. and now he is getting engaged and i am feeling bad...... He says that we can be good friends but i know that i will feel jealous and insane when i will find him talking to some other girl or behaving in the same manner as he was with me..... And the irony is that he is My office mate and any how i have to meet him daily, cant even avoid him. Guide me out, i am really disturbed... What should i do now? Should i stay with him or move on?
BooBoo1982 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 We are into a relationship from last 7 months and we were clear on the fact that we will not get married. Once he asked me even that will he be able to be with him all through his life, that time i didn't responded. and now he is getting engaged and i am feeling bad...... He says that we can be good friends but i know that i will feel jealous and insane when i will find him talking to some other girl or behaving in the same manner as he was with me..... And the irony is that he is My office mate and any how i have to meet him daily, cant even avoid him. Guide me out, i am really disturbed... What should i do now? Should i stay with him or move on? I'm confused, you didn't want marriage or to be with him through his life? He found someone that did and left you?
Mrlonelyone Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Forgive me if I assume but you are East Indian right? If I understand this correctly you and him were a love match and promised you would resist whatever arrangements your parents made? You kept your promise and he did not. That has to hurt. All you can do now is walk away. Try to tell your boss that you don't want to work with him for personal reasons they might understand. Then, move on to someone who will keep a promise. Think about it like this, if he could not keep a promise to you he probably will not keep is marriage vows. That's not a good trait in a spouse.
Author deepika Posted September 12, 2012 Author Posted September 12, 2012 @BooBoo198 I want to,but his family is very orthodox like you can say with typical cultured values and he have to follow their words....... It is not like that he found that girl himself, it is the girl that his parents had looked for him.....
Author deepika Posted September 12, 2012 Author Posted September 12, 2012 Forgive me if I assume but you are East Indian right? If I understand this correctly you and him were a love match and promised you would resist whatever arrangements your parents made? You kept your promise and he did not. That has to hurt. All you can do now is walk away. Try to tell your boss that you don't want to work with him for personal reasons they might understand. Then, move on to someone who will keep a promise. Think about it like this, if he could not keep a promise to you he probably will not keep is marriage vows. That's not a good trait in a spouse. It is really difficult for me as well as for him as well to move on. he wants me to be his close friend all through his life....... that is the reason i am confused that what should i do.... I tried the same thing as you mentioned but cannot go along with it....
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