If my ex was just using me for sex, why is she jealous ?

[seemenow]

ex dated for 6 years on and off and the last time we broke it off, she told me that:

--she still loved me. She still had feelings for me.

---but retracted that weeks later and said she had only been using me for sex this last go round.

---she still calls and texts occasionally and found out I got asked out on a date and urged me not to go on the date. Said I shouldn't even talk to her if she texts me.

--during the date conversation she said that she had "screwed up" our relationship.

--most importantly, she has a boyfriend right now. She was with him the last time I slept with her. She told me things were on the skids between them and just needed to find a way to let him go easily (guess that was a lie)

 

If she is in love, and has a boyfriend-why would she care if she found out someone had asked me out on a date? Why would she bring up our past relationship?

 

I haven't heard from her for a week. I think she may be embarrassed for getting jealous.

I am still in love with her. Should I move on? What would be the next best move for me to get her back?

 

Just let her go?

 

I am going on holiday to France next week and I need to figure what to do before I go. Please give me honest responses, and just don't tell me to leave her, forget her, move on. It is just not that easy. I really want to gain insight on how she may be feeling right now, and what she is trying to do. I hope you guys can help me with that. Thank you.

[TaraMaiden]

Doesn't want you, but doesn't want anyone else to have you either.

Desperately insecure, no self-esteem.

go No Contact.

Seriously, do it, stick with it, keep to it, and move on, don't prolong this agony.

 

Read the link in my sig.

 

Thanks.

 

Just send the postcard to "TaraMaiden, Loveshack."

 

It will find me..... !

[seemenow]

Thanks for the words, Maiden. Anyone else have any insight as to why she is doing and saying these things? Like I said, I still love her and i am not prepared to just cut her out of my life yet.

[TaraMaiden]

And there's your big mistake.

"Yeah, thanks for that, but I'm actually looking for someone to show me how I can prolong this agony, because while I think what you told me is right, it's actually not what I wanted to hear."

 

Of course you're still in love with her.

But that doesn't mean it's a good thing, or a healthy place to be.

 

She gave you the run-around, and now she's with someone else.

Someone else is ploughing her furrow.

Someone else is between her legs.

Someone else is doing what you used to do.

That is not a healthy place to want to be.

 

ETA:

There's no point trying to fathom out why people do things like this.

It's a no-brainer.

It's confusing, but you'll never get a straight answer, so the best thing to do is to focus on how YOU handle this crap.

LEAVE IT BE.

 

Let.

 

her.

 

go.

 

No good will come of it.

[headsashed]

Tara hit the nail on the head,she doesnt want you but doesnt want anyone else to have you,its as simple as that. The best and only thing you can do is go NC,its a win win situationg really,she will either miss you and come crawling back and if she doesnt then NC has helped you get over her.

 

Im not a big fan of NC because its hard,but its the best path to take,and no,its not designed to win her back,its to help you heal but in some cases the other person starts to miss the other and comes back,just dont hold up hope on that though.