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Ok, after many years of being single and living the single life I have finally found the girl I can really see myself settling down with. I am 26 years old and going to start law school soon. So the girl I have been dating I have actually known for about 3 years. We met in college at UCR back in 2009.

 

We pretty much just ran in the same social circle because she had a bf at the time and I was going through my frat boy phase of meeting and dating lots of different girls. Well when we both graduated in 2010 we began to actually start hanging out together and we always had tons of fun. I didn't push for exclusivity because I wasn't ready to settle down and our lives were heading in different directions. She had just gotten out of a relationship. We hung out a couple times, but the timing was just not right. Well, fast forward to this summer 2012. She hits me up in May out of nowhere and asks me how I've been. I immediately begin to talk to her and ask her to go out. We definitely hit it off and the chemistry was great. She is actually in Law school right now. I am applying to law school soon and will be starting this coming year. We had talked about me going to the same school as her. Well after dating for a month she invites me out to Palm Springs to celebrate her parents 30th wedding anniversary. I proceed to meet her parents and family. I guess you could say I was ready for it. I knew that things were becoming pretty serious. We had a great time. Well two weeks ago all hell broke loose and **** hit the fan! I went to a Angel game with a friend of mine and he proceeds to invite the girl he is dating and she brings her cousin (a girl). I had no idea he was planning on bringing chicks to the ball game. Well I played it cool and I was friendly. I guess you could say I played wingman for him. After the game we went to the bars in Newport and I had some drinks with the girls. I didn't make any moves and totally kept everything friendly with the girl's cousin.

 

Well the next day I log into face book and I notice my buddy had posted pictures of Me, him and the girls at the game!! He also checked us into the bars in Newport. It made it look like a ****ing double date!!! Now the girl that I have been seeing is totally pissed off and mad. Well the next day after the ball game I texted her to come to a family party of mine so she could meet some of my family. She texted me back that she couldn't go and "I shouldn't have a hard time finding a replacement." I basically responded back and told her the situation. I was honest with her and admitted that I was caught in a tough situation. I also reiterated the fact that I care about her and only her. I told her I was sorry for the **** on face book. She told me "I can't believe you took another girl to the Angel game." I tried explaining but she wasn't having any of it. Well after a day she texted me back saying "I guess I don't know why I am getting so mad, its not like we were official." I told her that I wanted to see her and I was tired of texting. I wanted to tell her in person that I had fallen deeply for her and wanted to make her all my own. Sadly I haven't been able to tell her how I feel... She texted me to come pick her up the next day. Well the next day came and she flaked. She said she had some things to do and she would let me know when she would be home. I told her I had to work and we could meet up later in the day. Well she never texted me back when she got home. Instead after I got off work I drove to her house and she was not there. Then.... 5 days went by and she didn't contact me so I didn't contact her. She was giving me the "silent treatment" i suppose. I didn't reach out to her because I figured she needed space and time to think about everything. Well I finally broke down and contacted her. I told her to talk to me and don't let what happened last week ruin what we have. She ends up texting me the next day and this is what she wrote:

 

"Im sorry I have been so unresponsive...:( I just cant deal with this side drama in my life right now. I'm super busy with school and I dont need anything more on my plate that is gonna upset or distract me. I went through this last year (must of been her ex) and I just know that what is best for me is just be selfish and focus on my own goals."

 

its been 2 days since she sent me this text... I haven't responded back. I dont know what to do and how to handle this... I haven't been serious with a girl in 4 years. I know I WANT her. But I also know she obviously does not trust me. I don't have such a great past. I have pretty much been a dater for a long time with nothing serious. But i was going to be serious with her. I feel its too late though.. Things are already ****ed up and I dont know if I should spill my guts to her or just give it time and see how things pan out..... Sorry this is so long but Maybe you can give me some insight into what she thinking from a girl's perspective. I dont have girls who are friends and I dont have any sisters. I want to FIGHT for her because I know she still has feelings for me. This girl has made me feel feelings I haven't felt in so long. I did open up emotionally to her a couple weeks ago about how everything felt so right with her and it was almost like destiny that we came together again after 2 years. She has opened me up and we can talk about anything. Its more than just physical, I know I have become emotionally attached ot her. We were making plans together. Now it seems like everything we had going has fallen apart. I really ****ed up!

 

Im not going to give up so easy on her. All my life I've been in control of my emotions, but when it comes to her walking away I feel broken. This may break me.... Help me with this situation. Be honest with your analysis. Dont hold back.. I can handle it... hopefully haha

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I echo that.

For all the wonderful advantages of technology, we are right royally screwing our lives up by looking at - not communicating with.

leave her be.

she told you all you need to know.

in her Text. :rolleyes:

 

And if you're starting Law study, trust me when I tell you, you really do not need emotional distractions right now, if you want to graduate with that degree....

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