dating77 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 I feel like a teenager for having to seek out advice like this, but here it goes, any advice is welcomed. Thanks in advance! I am in my early thirties now and about 3 years ago, met a guy while I was living and working in another state/big city. One afternoon, I met a guy while drinking coffee on a park bench in the neighborhood where I was living. We had an amazing conversation, and I sort of felt a little attraction, but that was all. Since we were strangers, we decided to exchange facebook contacts, and keep in touch. Shortly after, I noticed that he was in a relationship, so we exchaned the "nice to meet you" email and left it at that. I since relocated back to my hometown and sort of forgot about him. Fast forward three years, and he has since relocated to my city!! Now he's single and asking me out for a date! First he asked me for drinks, and then later made dinner reservations for a great little restaurant, and the date went swimmingly! We seemed to really connect. Again! Everything went well, and afterwards we kissed a few times. Later on he walked me to my car and it turned into a total make out with kissing and cuddling, he then started getting a bit touchy, and I let it go a little, since we were both VERY attracted on many levels. Than, he asks me if I wanted to come over and check out his place, and spend more time together. At this point, I was already feeling like it was a bit much for a first date, and I declined and said that I wasn't comfortable with that on a first night out (of course!). So then he went home, and walked away with a very rejected look. So sad if this is the case, because I was feeling very excited and romantic about the entire night! My only thought is that I may have led him on, or not acted like a lady with all of the making out. It's been 2 days and no sign of a "thank you" call or text. I'm not really used to this sort of thing, and generally receive some sort of response. Any and all advice is welcomed! Thanks! : )
WhiteChocolate Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 I think you did the right thing, going as far as you were comfortable and no further. I don't think you were being a tease or unladylike. I find it really strange that you connected with him so well but he hasn't taken even a minute out of 48 hrs to follow up with you. It's unfortunate that he is acting that way. If you really liked him a LOT then I would call him up. If not...then w/e. 1
travelbug1996 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Don't blame yourself. Sounds like he just wanted to get laid. You may have dodged a bullet. 3
Jane2011 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 He sounds horrible. What a worm. I made out on the first date with a guy last November, and he didn't expect anything more than that. He really didn't even expect making out. 3
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