Wished for a miracle, can it happen? Not tonight.

[mortensorchid]

I have heard many people say when they meet The One they just know. I have yet to experience something like this. The closest I came was a few years ago, my friend (who I will call Dave) had just moved to town and saw me chatting with another male friend across the room. We both said from the minute we saw each other, we just knew that we were going to be friends. And we are. But I digress ...

 

I went to a MeetUp tonight, a local wine bar. Mostly older people seem to go to these things, but that's alright as I have met a few good people here. I was talking to one woman who asked if I wanted to meet someone who I might like. It might sound stupid, but I was actually hoping that this was going to be a moment of some kind. This was when I was going to meet the elusive ONE that might be out there. So I said sure.

 

She introduces me to this man in the other room. And there was a definate feeling of ... Yuck. Mullet man, Willy Nelson without the braids. She said that we had something in common, what was it? I said I do tech work for a theater in town, he said that he liked theater. Nothing else. I think we exchanged a hand shake or a pleasent smile or two. Then we parted ways and never said a word again.

 

Ah well, so much for Knowing. You also know when you Know Not, if nothing else. But I felt a little foolish hoping that maybe it would be at least somewhat substantial.

[Mrlonelyone]

So sorry to hear that. I know how you feel.

 

The truth is "the one" does not really exist. There are billions of people on Earth, and the perfect person for any of us probably lives on the other side of the world.

 

All we can do is take the best person we have thats around us and try to build a solid relationship which fullfills both partners needs. That's the real trick, not finding some perfect person with whom it's all effortless, but finding a good person and making it work as best we can. Most of the time it won't, but that's ok.

 

Cheer up, you are in the company of billions of people most of whom will never find anything close to "the one". (The rest who swear they did are simply in the midst of limmerance)

[2.50 a gallon]

This has happened to me several times. The first time at about age 28, she became my Ex fiance.

 

The last time was 20 years ago, 3 years later we hooked up and we have been together ever since.

[oldskl]

Anybody has the potential to be 'the one'.

 

Nobody comes pre-packaged with everything you are needing and not needing all in a singular piece of flesh and mind.

 

Not even dream robots come as finished a product as you suggest.

 

The elusive 'One' is a creation of the two of you combined, through experiences, memories and time.

 

Just my rain-down on reality cheque opinion though.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I don't believe in "the one," but I totally believe in "the knowing." It has been the starting point for many relationships of all kinds in my life.

 

It is actually commonplace for me to "know." I "knew" about my husband before we even met ftf.

 

I think there are a lot of things that are within people below the facades of physical bodies and personality. It's possible to be in touch with that aspect of people.

 

But, the concept of THE ONE probably is a hinderance to that.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I just "knew" whenever I met people that turned out to be important in my life. When I met my ex, who was my first serious relationship, everything felt so natural that I just "knew" we will end up in a LTR, despite him not being my type. I even remember writing an e-mail to a friend after meeting.."so I have finally met someone with whom I will be spending a LOT of time with.." Same thing when I met my real life best friend and my online best friend. With both of them, the connection was strong, special and natural...

 

I also just "know" when people are not right for me. Sadly, every guy since my ex, I just "knew" within minutes of talking to them that they are not going to be "it".