domple Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 I have been dating a girl for a few months, we both love each other and even discussed having a future together, everything was perfect. Last week she flipped out and started to get anxiety attacks. I knew this but she was abused 8 years ago from a former boyfriend very badly. She started to overlay the fear of him onto me. Partly due to a hormone treatment hich exaserbated everything. * She knows that this is not how she truly feels about me but cant shake it. She will go to therapy in 2.5 weeks time to get the help she needs. Unfortunetl we don’t know how long it will take. I love so much and don’t want to end it but told her it was probably best to do and she agrees with me. The reason is she has successfully walled herself from me, doesn’t want to see me, no texting/messaging and I cant live like that in linbo. I don’t mind if she included me in but she wont. * I feel like crap because she IS getting the help she needs in a few weeks but I cant handle this. I honestly thought she was the one and she is now adament the best thing for me is to break up as well so “I can move on” even though I know she doesn’t want that. This is by far the worst break up I ever had (even ones where I dated the girl for years), mostly because we both love each other and want to be togther but at this stage cant. * I live in hope that she can be cured quickly but you never know. I will see her tonight to collect a few things and it jst burns so hard I alsmost don’t want to go get my stuff
mizzat Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 (edited) I have been dating a girl for a few months, we both love each other and even discussed having a future together, everything was perfect. Last week she flipped out and started to get anxiety attacks. I knew this but she was abused 8 years ago from a former boyfriend very badly. She started to overlay the fear of him onto me. Partly due to a hormone treatment hich exaserbated everything. * She knows that this is not how she truly feels about me but cant shake it. She will go to therapy in 2.5 weeks time to get the help she needs. Unfortunetl we don’t know how long it will take. I love so much and don’t want to end it but told her it was probably best to do and she agrees with me. The reason is she has successfully walled herself from me, doesn’t want to see me, no texting/messaging and I cant live like that in linbo. I don’t mind if she included me in but she wont. * I feel like crap because she IS getting the help she needs in a few weeks but I cant handle this. I honestly thought she was the one and she is now adament the best thing for me is to break up as well so “I can move on” even though I know she doesn’t want that. This is by far the worst break up I ever had (even ones where I dated the girl for years), mostly because we both love each other and want to be togther but at this stage cant. * I live in hope that she can be cured quickly but you never know. I will see her tonight to collect a few things and it jst burns so hard I alsmost don’t want to go get my stuff first off im sorry maybe she dont want to hold u back from what u really want my wife was scared of me at first due to the fact of having abusive boyfriends father mother so all u can really do is hope talk if that dont work move on no need to linger on to something that wont exist i know it hurts but it will hurt more to linger it will destroy you inside and out Edited September 11, 2012 by mizzat
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