john 07 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 So about a month ago I asked a girl to be my GF and she asked for more time to think about it and get to know me better. We have been seeing each other for about 2 months now. I want to ask her again to be my exclusive partner. BUT since things are good now should I not bring it up? Im just confused at where we stand. I only see her on the weekend cuz we both work and are busy during the weekdays. Should I not rock my own boat??
ja123 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 I'd ask her again, but this time just say you want to be exclusive with her and you want to know if she feels the same. Perhaps it's the word GF she finds to be too soon.
backonthemarket Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I don't know how old you guys are or your particulars, but I usually find that women are anxious to become exclusive. Some are not, so I could be way off base here. I would think that this woman's refusal to become exclusive is not a good sign, as women usually want to escalate relationships. In my own experience, not wanting to escalate was a sign that I wasn't really emotionally invested. Even in situations where exclusivity would have been impractical (LDR or I had just come out of another relationship), being into a guy meant that I would want to go for it. I hope I'm wrong, but I wanted to throw this out there. If things are going well, then it's a good time to ask. Don't be afraid to rock the boat if you want this, because it's not too early to ask. Eventually her feelings will surface anyway...
SJC2008 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 IMO asking to be exclusive after a month was too soon. I'd wait another month being that you were a little quick on the trigger the first time. You'll be at the 3 month benchmark and if she doesn't want to be exclusive with you start do date somene else. I think after 3 months regardless of the sex that person should know if they want to be exclusive with someone.
monkey00 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 I think after 3 months regardless of the sex that person should know if they want to be exclusive with someone. Yeah. IME, usually the 3 month mark is the glass ceiling. Either you make it or break it at that point. I think it just depends how often you guys talk/go out/sex, etc. I would say 2-3 month period is the optimal time for couples to have the talk. As always moving too quickly can ruin things.
123321 Posted September 14, 2012 Posted September 14, 2012 So about a month ago I asked a girl to be my GF and she asked for more time to think about it and get to know me better. We have been seeing each other for about 2 months now. I want to ask her again to be my exclusive partner. BUT since things are good now should I not bring it up? Im just confused at where we stand. I only see her on the weekend cuz we both work and are busy during the weekdays. Should I not rock my own boat?? You're doing the womans job, and it makes you look needy. Your job is to keep her interested, her job is to try and get the guy she's interested in to commit in stages.
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