todreaminblue Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 I am female and as far as flirting goes i am pretty clueless.I have had guys come on to me when i have been in a relationship because i am friendly i laugh and i make comments that make them laugh i am easy to talk to and i listen and i help out is this flirting because this is what i do and how i am when i am happy....... when i am passionate i know you can tell because my eyes change but normally its passionately involved in a conversation not that persons sexuality can any guy tell me if you were with a girl who got male interest how it would make you feel and what do you class as flirting......would you blame the girl would you wan them to be silent and not herself or how do you think a woman should act in mixed company..i am aloof when i sense sexual interest and these guys i deal with pretty firmly what am doing wrong?..the guy by the way i am trying to flirt with has no clue but then again i am shy and cant ask him out been trying still will try just might take ten years...also any females who have dated recently if you could share your thoughts i would appreciate some perspective....deb
lukas Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 I don't see how you can stop flirting, as it is something most of us do unintentionally. That said, it is very difficult to define exactly what constitutes it as well, I'm sure too physicists could flirt during a discussion about quantum physics. Basically, your gf should know what lines are not to be crossed based on her own definition of flirting. If I feel someone is interested in my gf at a party or something, I will often show up and join the coversation, that sends a clear signal to the other party that she is taken and will scare him off...
nonexistent Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 As lukas mentioned... flirting is usually natural and should be that way. It's supposed to go both ways since if you're flirting with someone and he/she doesn't reciprocate than you're eventually going to crash. If I'm out with my wife, and someone approaches her, I let her handle it the way she wants to. I trust her. She knows not to cross the line. Now there are some people who don't care and obviously wouldn't be worthy of being steady with. You'll know who they are because they just won't stop at the flirting level, they will take it to the next level which is usually physical. If you're single then it doesn't apply. Innocent flirting is usually just small chit chat, laughter and picking on them. The heavier stuff will include references to sex and relationships. Even heavier would be directly signalling the go for the deed. If you want a guy to ask you out, then you have to be a little bit more accessible. Smile at him more often, say HI... things that let him know that you know he exists and it's basically a way to let him know that your guard is down as well. Or if you want to ask him out, just start with coffee or lunch or anything small. Good luck!
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