Kansas Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Guy spends 3 months asking me out. Reluctantly I go out with him and we have a great time and go out the next day. See him again throughout the week and then 2 weeks later end up going away together for a weekend. From the get go I tell him I don't want to sleep with him because I'm looking for a relationship and don't want to be someone's shag. Seems to take it but eventually pushes through this because apparently he wants a relationship too. We ended up sleeping together 2 weeks in, which is early for me. Long story short, he's all over me telling me how 'precious' I am to him and always throwing compliments about how much he likes me. Then when we go away together he starts talking group sex. I think it's a joke and when I finally realize its not say, "hey I don't want to sleep with anyone else but you". We have a blast the rest of the weekend. He drops me off and I don't hear from him again. My take is that he was in it for the conquest. I have gone NC and when I do have to see him say hello smile and walk away. I act completely disinterested. Thoughts?
Silly_Girl Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 My take is that he was in it for the conquest. I have gone NC and when I do have to see him say hello smile and walk away. I act completely disinterested. Thoughts? Yes, wanted to get his leg over. Or maybe ultimately the chemistry he was seeking wasn't there. Sounds like you're well rid.
KAT333 Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I agree, sounds like he was only in it for one thing so you're definitely better off without him. If people can't respect you they're not worth your time, just be grateful you got away from him as early as you did, and good on you
Emilia Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Guy spends 3 months asking me out. Reluctantly I go out with him Sounds like neither of you had that much interest to begin with, that changed on your side but not on his.
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Of course it's conquest...his persistence paid off, now you know the message you send to all men pestering women to date them then getting friendzoned and keep trying anyway...so that this happens. He sounds pussy whipped, not emotionally bonded. For you it was sexual conquest, chemistry and all that was probably just average so he just stuck to the sex. He came...he saw...he conquered...he got bored...then left.
Emilia Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Oh I misread, I had thought it had taken him 3 months to ask you out. Well, I have guys that continuously hit on me over months or years and I ignore them because they don't make the effort to get to know me so I know they don't really care about me. I'm at a stage where I'm looking for a relationship and only want to date someone I click well with on many levels. Better judgement next time OP
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